I've Decided that You Can't

KatieB · ‎03-10-2010

Post anything nice on these boards... Because some people have to turn it into a match on who can post the most hateful thing, make the most digs, etc... It's almost like a contest when it comes to some posters... The meaner the better....

And then the moderators will eventually delete the entire thread.....

None of it makes any sense to me... My mother used to tell me 'If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all. '

Good advice, Mama....

Laura14 · ‎06-09-2014

Welcome to my world!

But please don't stop trying. Nice posts are always welcome even when they are unappreciated by the select few.

deepwaterdotter · ‎03-09-2010

Tribalism appears to rule the day on many threads.

cherry · ‎03-09-2010

It depends. I have had threads , that everyone was splendid ,on them. They are usually of a personal nature ,and people bend over backwards ,to be kind ,and helpful.

puttypiesmom · ‎10-11-2017

People have different opinions and it's called having a conversation. Problem is one side frequently wants to censure the other and that's when a thread disappears. If everyone would just stop hitting report, threads wouldn't disappear. It's ok to disagree with someone!!

JYWilliams · ‎03-10-2010

Keep posting. Like I have posted in the past it's usually the same handful. No matter what the post isabout the same few has something nasty to say. I hope QVC one day will put the Ignore button back up.

jeanlake · ‎03-10-2010

Agree. Keep posting. Don't let anyone chase you away. Some people like to fuss and they bring bad energy with them. And I'm not talking about people who merely disagree or have different opinions. I'm talking about people looking for a fight - for whatever broken reason. Seriously, they can't touch you. Just shake your head and move along.

"I took a walk in the woods and came out taller than the trees." Henry David Thoreau

NYC Susan · ‎03-13-2010

@cherry wrote:
It depends. I have had threads , that everyone was splendid ,on them. They are usually of a personal nature ,and people bend over backwards ,to be kind ,and helpful.

I agree. I think many threads take a bad turn, but I've also seen quite a few that bring out the kindness in people, and often some laughs too. :-)

What causes things to go south very often, IMO, is when someone over-reacts to another poster who simply disagrees. Not every difference of opinion is cause to do battle!

Another problem is posters who post about a personal problem, and then don't like the responses they get. You can't be thin-skinned if you start a thread like that. Anyone who comes here for validation that they were right to handle a problem the way they did is likely setting themselves up for disappointment. We all have different viewpoints, different life experiences, etc, so opinions will vary.

I agree that there are many posters who are well-meaning, and take the time to write thoughtful replies. I see that all the time.

GAQShopr53 · ‎07-27-2015

That is a common theme and seems to be the nature of posting on the boards...I refuse to get caught up with the negative and for the most part I really enjoy most of the posts. Don't allow the negative to keep you from posting.