Community Chat

[minkbunny]

Being at the bedside of a critically ill person for an extended period of time gives a person a lot of free hours. If they choose to share their daily experiences with others that might receive comfort from knowing that worry and grief is a universal emotion, that is their right to do so.

Assuming no one is forced to read any of the blogs or writings of these loved ones just trying to get through one more long, lonely day or night, I applaud their strength and wish them all well.

[brii]

I'm a private person. I would never do that.

Sometimes I think people write those things to get attention for themselves...

[Junebug54]

On the flip side of the coin I would not want a blog written about me if I was seriously ill or dying. It seems disrespectful of that person to me anyway.

[Emma bunting]

I don't understand why you are conflicted..........unless it's something you, yourself are considering doing, which you've already said you don't have time for.

Blogging is these people's choice. I'm sure they do it for a variety of reasons, none of which should cause any conflict for you. If you feel "uneasy knowing too much" as you said.....don't read the blog. Pretty simple.

[bikerbabe]

I am very open about my personal struggles - bulimia, suicidal, DH's PTSD, my mother's death, abused as a child by my alcoholic stepfather. It is benficial to me and maybe I can help someone else by talking about my journey. I speak openly with people I meet, have given speeches and written papers in college. I'm not a blogger but there is nothing wrong with it as long as you have the permission of anyone involved to speak about it.

[colliemom4]

There is also a new practice of people asking for money for all sorts of things on websites.

[terrier3]

On 6/23/2014 Emma bunting said:

I don't understand why you are conflicted..........unless it's something you, yourself are considering doing, which you've already said you don't have time for.

Blogging is these people's choice. I'm sure they do it for a variety of reasons, none of which should cause any conflict for you. If you feel "uneasy knowing too much" as you said.....don't read the blog. Pretty simple.

I admire the beauty of the writing...especially Blue4ben (the mom of the boy who died from cancer), but I also think it is narcissistic and self-serving. Sometimes you just have to carry on. Ben's twin doesn't want to visit the grave - why force him go and take pictures of the dirt and place them on the blog?

I admire Jill Kelly's honesty in admitting life with her husband was no bed of roses...but I don't think that her 2 girls would appreciate hearing about their dad's issues...not to mention putting them in a book for the world to see. I also don't see how "finding Jesus" is the answer to all their problems.

I'm not planning on reading anymore of the Jim Kelly stuff...even though it's re-printed on the front page of the paper!

[terrier3]

On 6/23/2014 colliemom3 said:

There is also a new practice of people asking for money for all sorts of things on websites.

That's true...the Blue4ben site has a separate page for fundraising!

[Free2be]

Most everyone goes through some kind of major life upheaval or challenge or whatever term that fits. Many go through it stoically alone or in private, many have the urge to share every step of every day and the rest fall somewhere in the middle.

A neighbor from childhood developed a sudden terminal event which was documented on line with daily news and photos right on through the funeral. I was a silent observer and although I thought him to be a terrible person with good reason, I saw that he matured into a much beloved husband, father, and friend. I am grateful they shared. Who can know how shared grief helps another in large or small ways.

Like it has been said, no one is forced to follow the journey.

[minkbunny]

It suddenly became clear what the issue with the writings is.