Community Chat

[cherry]

He would want you to find a nice place to live. He would want you to be happy ,and live a full life. This is the best way to honor him, by being good to yourself..you are  a part of him that lives on...

[qvcaddition]

I use to have a gang leader live next door to me.  His mother moved and gave him the house.  Nice neighborhood.  I knew him since he was five and given everything.  He was growing weed in the back yard, had two big pit bulls, one actually came in my kitchen when I left the sliding door open.

His home was a mess.  I was never scared because hime and his gang looked out for me.     A poster said they don't do where they live.

In the coming years, he has turned 40,  I've been in my house 44 years, and he has turned out very responsible.  Fixed up his house and has a family.  Sometime they do turn out great and grow up.  Some of his friends are dead and his house use to be an eyesore, but no more.  Hope for everyone.

[Tyak]

@Anonymous032819 

You said you forgot to CLOSE and lock your door?  If I did that where I live,  I'm afraid I'd come home to face a pack of coyotes inside.  The heck with burglars.

[september]

I might want to move, too,  but give it another try.  See if it makes a difference now that the area back there has been cleaned up, and do place a few battery operated motion detector lights along the back border. An inexpensive fix, and may deter people from hanging out behind your place. 

[dulwich]

@qvcaddition  One house we lived in here on CA our next door neighbor was the head of the local Hell’s Angels.  All detached homes so plenty of room.  He had a large one level home.

 Our first clue was his annual party all the motor bikes everywhere and he had the greatest rock band ever!  We used to sit on our back deck and listen to the music but only heard it once a year.

His home, yard, pool was immaculate - never any problems- in fact a great neighbor but to see him and his pack riding quite a sight.

@Anonymous032819  This would be a good neighbor for you!

[SilleeMee]

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@alicedee wrote:

Why not find an apartment in a nice complex?  No taxes, maintenance, or yard work.  

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I could never afford that here. The average 1-BR apartment, unfurnished, goes for about 1800 a month. They want first and last month's rent up front plus an additional damage deposit. Right now there are no rooms for rent. You get put on a waiting list while they do a background check on you and then wait for them to call you back...if they like you. That wait is close to over a year.

[SunValley]

When the police informed me they needed to use my backyard as a stakeout space to gather evidence on my neighbors I knew it was time to move. And I did.

[dulwich]

@SilleeMee @Anonymous032819   I think all you ladies can do at present is to try to be as safe and secure as you possibly can.

Obviously moving would be great but if you are in a situation where this is a way off you have to make the best of where you are.  

Of course moving would be good but in the meantime keeping secure in your present situation is primary concern.  Hopefully in the not too distant future your circumstances will change for  the better.

[SilleeMee]

Thank you @dulwich . I was just looking at my security lights I have mounted in my back yard and thinking how dark it would be out there without them. Good lighting helps. I also have security cameras inside and out. I keep my car keys on my bed stand so I can hit the alarm button to sound the horn if I need to. I have taken many precautions....more than most people would. I moved my bed away from the exterior wall so in case a bullet came through I might be spared. I already have three bullet holes in my siding on the house but they are on the lower level where I don't usually go...But still it makes me nervous.

[BirkiLady]

@Anonymous032819 

Had figured it was a detached garage. Glad to know you have a good, strong padlock on the inside. With your new lights and the cleaned fence by the alley, you should be fine. There simply isn't any place to hide or sleep any longer. 

As my mom used to say, "The things you worry about the most, usually don't happy." She was a wise woman.