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[happycat]

@Jordan2, you have been on my mind today. I am praying for peace and comfort to surround you.

[roeroe1005]

Oh Jordan,

I am so sorry.  Even though we are "adults", losing our parents is just as hard as if we were younger.  I will pray for your family.

This is how I looked at my parents' deaths, especially dad, who passed in May.  Before he died, he told us mom had come to him the night before he took a fall.  

God bless you.

[software]

I lost both my parents within weeks of each other.   They had been in my care.   When I was taking care of them, I tried to focus on the present, not about my life when they are gone.    I pray you find peace, now & then,

[MyShadowLove]

@Jordan2 ...Sending my heartfelt condolences to you and your family! 

My Mom lived into her 90's also...She had twins (my sister and I) when she was in her mid 40's...She thought she was through with having any more children as my older sister was 6 and my brother was 15 at the time, so us twins were quite the surprise!...We were all so blessed to have her in our lives to such a good old age...We were also very fortunate and  blessed in that she didn't have to go into a nursing home until a couple of years before her passing and that she didn't suffer...As time went on, her body just became tired and she went peacefully...At my last visit with her, she had the most content and peaceful look on her face with a sweet smile...She was ready to let go...However, no mattter their age, we are never ready for the loss and the void that it leaves.

I did find great comfort in knowing that she was so loved by her children and grandchildren and lovingly cared for...I pray that you will also find comfort in the wonderful memories of the beautiful, loving, close bond that you shared with your Mom and the loving care that you gave her...

I want to share something that I read at the time about the void that their loss leaves....

"There may always be a small place within you that remains hollow...Value it...A quiet, abiding emptiness that can sustain your connection to your loved one."

I can't tell you how many times I read this and I, eventually,  learned to cherish and value that void as a place that is very special between Mom and I where I sit quietly and have conversations with her.

I truly hope that, in some small way, this will help you also! 

((((((((Hugs))))))))

[dex]

@Jordan2 I went through the same with my mom last year..she managed to recover and celebrated her 93rd birthday.She is in assisted living which is the best place for her..I tried to care for her after the fall but I am not a nurse and she was very stubborn about things.

I just thought I would say that maybe your mom will recover too There is always hope.

[Jordan2]

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@MyShadowLove wrote:

@Jordan2 ...Sending my heartfelt condolences to you and your family! 

My Mom lived into her 90's also...She had twins (my sister and I) when she was in her mid 40's...She thought she was through with having any more children as my older sister was 6 and my brother was 15 at the time, so us twins were quite the surprise!...We were all so blessed to have her in our lives to such a good old age...We were also very fortunate and  blessed in that she didn't have to go into a nursing home until a couple of years before her passing and that she didn't suffer...As time went on, her body just became tired and she went peacefully...At my last visit with her, she had the most content and peaceful look on her face with a sweet smile...She was ready to let go...However, no mattter their age, we are never ready for the loss and the void that it leaves.

I did find great comfort in knowing that she was so loved by her children and grandchildren and lovingly cared for...I pray that you will also find comfort in the wonderful memories of the beautiful, loving, close bond that you shared with your Mom and the loving care that you gave her...

I want to share something that I read at the time about the void that their loss leaves....

"There may always be a small place within you that remains hollow...Value it...A quiet, abiding emptiness that can sustain your connection to your loved one."

I can't tell you how many times I read this and I, eventually,  learned to cherish and value that void as a place that is very special between Mom and I where I sit quietly and have conversations with her.

I truly hope that, in some small way, this will help you also! 

((((((((Hugs))))))))

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@MyShadowLove  thank you for this. The funeral was today, a tough long day for sure. I was very stoic, I got through it without crying ( I don't like to cry in front of people). I wrote a little something I read, I surprised myself that I got through it without choking up.

[Snooky60]

I'm so sorry.  My prayers go out to you and your family. 💗

[caseymaye]

My condolences @Jordan2 .

[amyb]

Jordan, I came here to check in, afraid to see this...I am so very sorry for your loss. We are complete strangers but as many here can relate, I too feel for you. May you find the strength and peace you seek. Will keep you in my prayers, and may your dear mom be at peace with other loved ones, 'til you meet again. xo

[icezeus]

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@I am still oxox wrote:

I am so sorry, no matter how old you are it is difficult to see your parents die

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When I first read your response I saw your signature line and thought!! Wow!! harsh. Then I noticed your actual response.