Re: How would you feel?

occasionalrain · ‎03-10-2010

By needy I meant you want ownership as, it seems, many others on here do as well. No one wants to be controlled, told with whom they can be friends. I know I don't. Perhaps your boyfriend feels guilty about no longer wanting his ex and is trying to compensate.

esmerelda · ‎03-10-2010

@Daysdee wrote:
What happens to your job if you move with him? I don't think I would make the move to live by the ex. Check with your city--sometimes they have a department that finds home/room for someone that needs it. For example, sometimes a senior person would like to have someone to live with them so they are not alone, etc. Good luck to you. (Save all the money you can to be independent.)

@Daysdee I have the impression that she isn’t working. I might be wrong. I asked if she had her own money and she mentioned an inheritance that she spent. But “her own money“ in my mind also includes pay from a job.

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elizabethl123 · ‎03-29-2017

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Pqfan · ‎03-09-2010

I have always been they type of person that if I mess up I own it.

I have not told him how this is making me feel and I see that is my fault.

I also see that even though I still have great credit etc. I have been financially irresponsible with money.

I never save for a rainy day and now it is raining.

QueenDanceALot · ‎04-18-2013

@Pqfan

FWIW, I have never thought of you as a Drama Queen.

It's kind of an off the wall response here.

goldensrbest · ‎03-10-2010

@Pqfan wrote:
I have always been they type of person that if I mess up I own it.
I have not told him how this is making me feel and I see that is my fault.
I also see that even though I still have great credit etc. I have been financially irresponsible with money.
I never save for a rainy day and now it is raining.

Do you work? How old are you? I was married 43 yrs, befor my hubby died, so i am asking all these questions to know what to say ,to help.

When you lose some one you L~O~V~E, that Memory of them, becomes a TREASURE.

Pqfan · ‎03-09-2010

@goldensrbest wrote:
@Pqfan wrote:
I have always been they type of person that if I mess up I own it.
I have not told him how this is making me feel and I see that is my fault.
I also see that even though I still have great credit etc. I have been financially irresponsible with money.
I never save for a rainy day and now it is raining.

Do you work? How old are you? I was married 43 yrs, befor my hubby died, so i am asking all these questions to know what to say ,to help.

I am 54. I am living off of a cashed out retirement fund and a small inheritance. Not smart I know!

I definitely want and need to work!

I was very depressed after my moms death.

I haven't done much since.

QueenDanceALot · ‎04-18-2013

Out of curiosity, @Pqfan ,

Is the only reason he gives for moving to another town that he wants you to have a "nicer house"? How far away is this? Are there no nicer houses close to where you are now?

Is his work taking him to another town?

It might be one thing to stick with himfor awhile if you weren't moving with him, and had time to get all your cards on the table but it would be really foolish (IMO) to move with him and not have things settled with him and in your own mind.

RetRN · ‎10-01-2013

Well if he has her pearls, he must be seeing her. I think you need to get a job, set some goals, and find another guy when you are ready. At your age you should be able to take care of yourself. Independence should be taught to all young girls. You need to take responsibility and never need to rely on someone else. This relationship does not sound healthy to me.

Pqfan · ‎03-09-2010

@QueenDanceALot wrote:
Out of curiosity, @Pqfan ,

Is the only reason he gives for moving to another town that he wants you to have a "nicer house"? How far away is this? Are there no nicer houses close to where you are now?

He has to move. One of the beneifits he said is that I will have more space.

Is his work taking him to another town?
No.

It might be one thing to stick with himfor awhile if you weren't moving with him, and had time to get all your cards on the table but it would be really foolish (IMO) to move with him and not have things settled with him and in your own mind.

I agree but he is leaving as soon as the real estate people find him something.