Community Chat

[AbbyK]

If at 58, you realized that that all of the people you thought of as "friends" are really only acquaintances. I was part of a huge group of mothers-we got together twice a week for coffee, laughter, advice, and general mayhem. The kids all grew up, went to college, married, and the group disbanded. Some of us try to get together for lunch a few times a month, and catch up. They're all a great group of women, but we're friendly, butmI wouldn't call any of them in a crisis. What hurts me so much is my next door neighbor. I was her "rock" in the neighborhood. She had 3 very young babies, and her husband was a merchant marine, and gone for months. We'd talk 40 times a day, our kids played together, cookouts, pool parties, you name it. Now that both of our kids are grown and gone, she has no time for me. She works part time, with summers off. She'll write me notes when she sends over some magazines, but that's it. She never calls, which I have done on many occasions, inviting her to go to a catch-up lunch. Nope, nothing. I don't know what I have ever done to her. Her husband barely says Hi, when we see him or them. Apparently I'm a throw away friend, and I'm so hurt and feel so used. I guess I gave too much of myself to her. I told my husband I want to move...it hurts too much to stay here.