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[Moonchilde]

On 3/8/2015 occasional rain said: It was rude of him to even ask. He should have waited for you and the other dinner to offer. While it's a kindness to offer, I wouldn't expect anyone with basic manners to put strangers on the spot by asking to cut in line or move from their seat.

Just from what I observed, I think he's someone who is used to getting what he wants, regardless of what many would consider questionable manners under the circumstances. Likely not the first time he just expected he'd get his way.

Since there was someone sitting between us, he never even appeared on my radar until he asked me to move - over and through the man sitting next to me. Well. Perhaps he won't be quite so quick should he find himself in a similar situation in the future.

[Marienkaefer2]

I don't know...I would never think of asking anyone seated to move to accommodate me. I would find another location. So I think this guy was very rude. I guess if I were in the situation, I would have moved to keep the peace, but I would have definitely been annoyed.

[Gooday]

I do not have the energy to get that worked up over a request to move.

[occasionalrain]

You could have asked him what it was worth to him for you to move and put him on the spot.

[Moonchilde]

On 3/8/2015 occasional rain said: You could have asked him what it was worth to him for you to move and put him on the spot.

I should have asked him why he was attempting to seat two people when there was only one seat, which he surely noticed before he sat down ;-)

[occasionalrain]

So this ""gentleman"" sat in the lone seat leaving his girlfriend standing?1

[Moonchilde]

On 3/8/2015 occasional rain said: So this "gentleman" sat in the lone seat leaving his girlfriend standing?1

I never saw either of them when he walked up and sat down, because I was eating and there was someone sitting between us. So, I don't know.

[SnowPink]

On 3/8/2015 occasional rain said: So this "gentleman" sat in the lone seat leaving his girlfriend standing?1

Sounds to me like they walked in, couldn't find two seats together so he asked if someone would move down so they could sit together. It would've been impolite to refuse to move.

[Moonchilde]

On 3/8/2015 SnowPink said:

On 3/8/2015 occasional rain said: So this "gentleman" sat in the lone seat leaving his girlfriend standing?1

Sounds to me like they walked in, couldn't find two seats together so he asked if someone would move down so they could sit together. It would've been impolite to refuse to move.

You are completely wrong. The place was packed. Seats were not empty for more than 30 seconds before they were taken, so if someone took a seat, it was one seat that became available. It was not a counter where there were a bunch of empty random seats. Sounds to me like you didn't actually read even half of the posts.

[CardinalGirl]

On 3/8/2015 moonchilde said:

On 3/8/2015 SoftRaindrops said: Moonchilde, I can sympathize. He was rude and personally, I would have told him I was unable to get up. No excuses, and then I would simply have ignored him. I guess I have just lived a long time and do what I want and I don't care if some stranger thinks I'm not nice.

Thanks, SR :-) I too am not overly concerned what strangers think, so all the "you are just a silly rude person" responses without anything more constructive doesn't faze me. In these forums it's expected, and you know how people can't bear to disappoint ;-)