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On 1/14/2014 Retired08 said:

On 1/14/2014 brii said: My father in law was in a nursing hime where he died. There was no distinction between Medicaid and non-Medicaid patients. There shouldn't be either, IMO.

Just to jump in here long enough to say that you were very lucky brii. Maybe it's just my state, or even just the South, but, there are very obvious distinctions in care received in the homes that I have visited. It's frightening really. If I were to end up in a public, Medicaid home, I pray that I won't have enough of a mind left to know it.

This has probably been said already but in my city the "good" nursing/assisted living facilities do not accept Medicaid.

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My aunt was in a nursing home. SHe had a room mate she HATED. I worked and worked and sweet talked and finally they found her a private room. The next time I visited the first words out of her mouth were "I miss my BUDDY!" I nearly fainted.

The problem here is it is hard to be happy and comfortable in any nursing facility, no matter what your situation. And privacy seems to be a thing of the past no matter what your mental condition. It is a sad situation, and for most of us will be unavoidable. I'm trying to adjust my attitude toward people and the world and be more: forgiving, understanding, compliant and complacent, cheerful, and accepting before that time comes. I hope to have a few years to work on it! Attitude is everything. And compassion for yourself and for others. It makes a world of difference how you face that.

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On 1/15/2014 Sooner said:

My aunt was in a nursing home. SHe had a room mate she HATED. I worked and worked and sweet talked and finally they found her a private room. The next time I visited the first words out of her mouth were "I miss my BUDDY!" I nearly fainted.

The problem here is it is hard to be happy and comfortable in any nursing facility, no matter what your situation. And privacy seems to be a thing of the past no matter what your mental condition. It is a sad situation, and for most of us will be unavoidable. I'm trying to adjust my attitude toward people and the world and be more: forgiving, understanding, compliant and complacent, cheerful, and accepting before that time comes. I hope to have a few years to work on it! Attitude is everything. And compassion for yourself and for others. It makes a world of difference how you face that.