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[ROMARY]

Seems as though she isn't taking 'No thank you' as an answer.  By gosh, I think Noel's answer is the best.  Just say; 'No thank you, and don't ask me again'.   With an emphasis on 'don't ask me again'. 

[hckynut]

i have no problem saying the word "no". have had lots of practice and if need be, friend or not, i tell them as bluntly as posible, NO!  it is up to them how they choose to react. if a friendship for me was/is lost? so be it.

[LilacTree]

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@hckynut wrote:

i have no problem saying the word "no". have had lots of practice and if need be, friend or not, i tell them as bluntly as posible, NO!  it is up to them how they choose to react. if a friendship for me was/is lost? so be it.

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@hckynut

John, you're sounding better and better!!  ~Ford

[flickerbulb]

I had someone ask me the other day if I wanted a real Christmas tree. I told them I was not interested as I have fake trees.

They then persisted and I told them it was too difficult and messy for me to manage a real tree.

They again persisted.

I finally said, "What don't you get that I do NOT want a real Christmas tree?"

I tried to be nice and it did not work. Once I got snappy, they finally left me alone.

You might have to go that route. Some people just don't get it.

[chickenbutt]

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flickerbulb wrote:

I had someone ask me the other day if I wanted a real Christmas tree. I told them I was not interested as I have fake trees.

They then persisted and I told them it was too difficult and messy for me to manage a real tree.

They again persisted.

I finally said, "What don't you get that I do NOT want a real Christmas tree?"

I tried to be nice and it did not work. Once I got snappy, they finally left me alone.

You might have to go that route. Some people just don't get it.

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Pushy people!  I know somebody like that.  No matter what the 'thing' is, she pushes and pushes and pushes.   You try to be polite and direct with the 'no thank you' or whatever.

But they keep pushing on you until, finally, you have to get nasty about it.

Then - guess what?  You're the jerk!  It's mind-boggling how some people feel they should push on others like that and there is nothing wrong with that.  But once you finally have to shove back it's like 'gee, what's your problem?'.   UGH!

[QueenDanceALot]

First you put the tip of your tongue on the roof of your mouth and sound nnnnnnnnnn, then you remove the tip of your tongue from the roof of your mouth while simultaneously making an O with your lips while moving them out to the front, and sound ooooooooooo.

Practice in front of a mirror!

Seriously, I knew a woman (not a real friend, just an acquaintance, and she was constantly after me to buy her Mary Kay stuff and asking me to her "parties".  I made the mistake of finally buying something from her and it just made her worse!  So don't do that! You give these people an inch and they WILL try to take that mile and then some.

[Plaid Pants2]

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@hckynut wrote:

i have no problem saying the word "no". have had lots of practice and if need be, friend or not, i tell them as bluntly as posible, NO!  it is up to them how they choose to react. if a friendship for me was/is lost? so be it.

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Your answer is the BEST answer!.

[Tinkrbl44]

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@dex wrote:

I know someone who has a small business that offers a service that I am not interested in.I have said every excuse I can come up with and even said that I am not interested and still She pressures me.I can't think of a polite way to say that she is becoming very annoying.I don't want to hurt her feelings either because I do like her but honestly she is a high pressure sales person.

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@dex

I only read the first page of posts, so this may have already been offered.  

It's the reminder that   "No is a complete sentence",   Period.

[Imadickens]

I have a similar situation! I think it's best to ****** it right away! That means after the first "no thank you" the next time needs to be a very firm, but nice, "Honestly, I am not interested at all in your...but I am interested in our friendship! So, please don't ask me again! If I ever change my mind I'll let you know." Then, if it happens again, sit quietly without answering!

Since it sounds like we are both past this point, I figure I'll try it now! I'll tell her I enjoy her friendship but I really am not interested at all in the business. Please don't ask again, I'd really miss seeing you!"

Knowing my friend I may have to go as far as telling her, "I'm still not interested in your business but if you are that hard up for money I'd gladly give you a few bucks!"  But, since I'm not good at these things, I probably will just suck it up and keep saying no! Good luck! Tell me if you find the answer!

[wildlifewitch]

Say no, I don't need it, but is there another way I can support your busiiness, such as social media shares, likes.....