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[Caligurll]

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@Montana wrote:

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@dex wrote:

@Trix You might be right about our friendship.I will probably have to cave in and hope if I do it once she will be content with that.

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@dex giving in to a demand usually results in more demands.  I dont think if you "cave" that will be the end of it.

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Yes, it will just encourage her to keep trying knowing it she is persistent enough you will cave.

It's better to deal with it right now if you want to try to salvage the friendship.

[Allegheny]

@dex

Why don't you just tell her what you told us.  IE., I like you and while I don't want to hurt your feelings, I am really not interested.  If in the future my needs change I will let you know.

If she again approaches you, kindly remind her what you told her and change the subject.

[akaburtonfan]

I would just say "no thank you, I'm just not interested. I would appreciate it if you wouldn't ask again because I don't want it to affect our friendship". 

[Plaid Pants2]

The best way to say "No", is to just flat-out say it.

"No, I'm not interested."

You don't need to give a reason why you aren't interested.

Forget about her feelings, and stand up for yourself.

Ever notice guys have no problem saying "No"?

If women were more like guys in that aspect, they wouldn't have half of the problems that they do.

[libbyannE]

She isn't much if a friend if she keeps pestering you. I have been there with someone I thought was becoming a friend. She decided to sell for o e of those home-based businesses. I looked at the catalog and bought a candle just to be polite. That wasn't enough. I  told her I was not interested in anything else. She kept asking. Then she wanted me to invite people to my home for a "party', at which she would try to sell this junk. I told her I just couldn't do that. She was annoyed with ME for not helping her. I told her this was getting in the way of our friendship, and that was the last time we talked. 

[Its Me LuLuBelle2]

@dex, you're very sweet to worry about your friend's feelings. But, while you're worrying about not hurting her feelings she contines to steamroll over you.  I think you're just going to have to tell her that you're not interested and if you change your mind in the future you know where to find her.

[LilacTree]

@dex

Just tell her you're broke and ask her for a loan.

There's no argument for that.

[qualitygal]

Every year, or even every time, just say, not yet, thanks. Who knows, some day you might change your mind and need what she is offering. If it's her business, that's part of what she has to do, to stay in business.

[Shanus]

@IlliniGirl88  I agree to just say "No, I'm not interested", but I'd add "I appreciate you thinking of me". Kind of takes the sting out of it and also makes it sound a little softer, friendlier. 

[dex]

@LilacTree@Hana that's a good one