Community Chat

[Mary Bailey]

I know of a situation where the boss was a bully.  The people were interviewed by HR. The boss was fired because he created a hostile work environment.

[missy1]

I would rather them be rude....then the lying , gossiping, split personality (they act one way around the boss etc and nasty with their coworkers present only) holier than thou attitude, sense of  entitlement (they think they get everything free/or manipulate around the system to get it reduced), on the phone all day, drama filled, say they going to bring things- but don't,  don't pay back money, and backstabbing ones. I  don't know any like them at my job. cough cough

[alarmclock]

Never, ever trust Human Resources.

They are there to protect the company, not you.

[sidsmom]

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@alarmclock wrote:

Never, ever trust Human Resources.

They are there to protect the company, not you.

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Wow.

I’m sorry you’ve never experienced a wonderful company

to work for. It’s a lovely situation. 💛🌼

[Suzeecat]

@missy1, if I didn't know better, I'd say you work with my coworkers sister, LOL!  @stargazergal, I hope you find this advice helpful.  When I find myself dealing with someone difficult I pray for them.  I pray that they find peace and love in a way that they can share it with everyone they encounter.  This person sounds tortured and is taking it out on everyone around her.  I work in close quarters with a difficult person and it takes extra energy (and tons of prayer!) to get through every day without saying something inappropriate. 

[itsmagic]

I’m retired now but there was a woman at my last job (in an office setting) who was rude, often in a bad mood and I also felt like I was walking on eggshells around her.  But my strategy was to interact with her as little as possible and if I did need to interact with her to be cheerful no matter what mood she was in. And I would wait it out.  Luckily for me she eventually got fired on her own accord.  But if that strategy didn’t work and it got bad enough I was always prepared to move on.   I agree that HR isn’t always a good place to complain about a co-worker. 

[ItsME]

@stargazergal   I've had my share of bad bosses and a few bad coworkers as well.  

In the early/mid-80s, we had a typing pool on the floor... all letters and reports were typed by a group of four ladies.  They were terrible, and it took a lot of honey to get the work out.  I ended up working for a woman who was yelling at me, telling me that I had to YELL at the typing ladies to get the work done.  

I told boss lady that I would get what I needed, without yelling.  She didn't let up.  Kept insisting that I had to yell at them.  I didn't.  Later, I went to her and told her that we apparently had different styles, and that we needed to figure out how to work together.  She told me "I know I'm abrasive.  That's the way I am.  You'll have to get used to it."  Having watched the self-esteem of others who worked for her diminish, I wasn't going to waste any more time there, and I quit.

ETA.... a few years later, the guy who I was then working for (who was terrific!) met her at some meeting.  She told him that she was concerned that I might have told him bad things about her!

[hckynut]

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@stargazergal 

I have never and will never mince words. My way has always been to go directly to the source and start from there. With words they can easily understand(some don't pass community standards) how I feel about whatever it is that is irritating me. Lose a friend(?), such is life.

Spent years working around a few ***holes and only spoke when it was job related, for my jobs, seldom. Was and still is a pretty simple way for me, be it a job, or anywhere and anything in my life. Tell it like I see it!

hckynut

[Lipstickdiva]

We have a situation here at work where 2 of the secretaries don't get along and there is now a tenseness in our office because of it.  One secretary is incredibly rude to the other but I'm not getting involved because it's not my business.  If the rudeness was directed at me, it would be a different story but as far as I'm concerned, those 2 need to work it out themselves.

I work in a small office.  We have no HR department.  If you have a problem, you go to one of the bosses. They are all men and they don't really want to get involved either.  They would rather talk amongst themselves about it than actually do anything.   

[CrazyDaisy]

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@sidsmom wrote:

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@alarmclock wrote:

Never, ever trust Human Resources.

They are there to protect the company, not you.

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Wow.

I’m sorry you’ve never experienced a wonderful company

to work for. It’s a lovely situation. 💛🌼

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Alarmclock is not incorrect, HR is there to protect the best interests of the company.  That being said by inforcing the rules, resolving conflicts, and providing a safe work environment protects the company from employee lawsuits. 

Unions look out for the employee at the expense of the company.  HR departments look out for a companies interests by managing the empolyees within the existing policies and labor laws.