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[GrettaGarbled]

On 10/6/2014 straykatz said:

Did the mother say this was the reason or did the child say this is why she can't go to public school?

[chrystaltree]

I wouldn't give any thought at all to the mother's comments because I wouldn't know how she is defining "bully". It's obvious that the mother is basing her home school decision on issues from her own past. Not my child, doesn't involve me, so I wouldn't give it a second thought.

[Lindsays Grandma]

On 10/6/2014 GrettaGarbled said:

On 10/6/2014 straykatz said:

Did the mother say this was the reason or did the child say this is why she can't go to public school?

The mother said it to Lindsay's mother. The friend's mother lived in Germany and both children were born and raised there until they moved here several years ago.

[Catitude]

On 10/6/2014 Lindsays Grandma said:

My granddaughter has a friend who along with her younger sister are home schooled and the friend would love to go to public school. Lindsay is eleven and her friend is ten and they love sitting together side by side playing games on the computer, mostly at our house. The friend would love to go to public school but her mother said she won't allow it because she is afraid she may be bullied or become a bully. The part about becoming a bully is what threw me.

The girl is well behaved and does have the tendency of being a little pushy but I don't see her as the bullying type. As I said in the title, how do you interpret the mother's comment?

I think you're reading too much into her saying she might become a bully.

She obviously has fears of children (all) children being exposed to it.

Many "nice" kids started out as good kids until they were influenced by others to become bullies like them.

Her children can be totally non-bullying and become one in the wrong setting. Send a kid to school in the south Bronx and you'll see what I mean.

[jubilant]

I would find it hard to give what I think without knowing more about this little girl and why her mother feels the way she does. Some kids thrive in public schools and some don't....just need more info on this one.

[jubilant]

I also wanted to say that I have seen kids pulled out of public school and home schooled who were much happier for it and made better grades, especially those with ADD and some other issues. On the other hand, I have seen those who want to go back to public school because they are more social and needed the socialization. A lot depends on the child. A trial run at school, letting her know that you will try it and see how it goes would give her some responsibility for how it turns out. That might give this little girl all the incentive she needs to do well in public school and it would be letting her play a part in the decision.

[JuJu Squeezie]

I'd guess ""being bullied"" is the worry. I don't blame her but not being socialized can be a hardship for a child too.

[ROMARY]

I've seen success stories and a couple of not so good results re: home schooling. It really depends on the way the parents handle the children in home-school settings. If overly protected, SOMETIMES (not always) the child (if alone) doesn't have much self-esteem.......too afraid to be around classmates, teachers, school settings, etc. It can work in reverse, and the child ends up being a 'victim' anyway.

[ROMARY]

p.s. It's a very competitive world out there.........I'd say in every single field/career. (If not, in most fields.) In general, it's wise to be able to become used to competition in one way or another. Employees are always 'one step ahead', so one has to 'keep up' in this day and age. What this has to do with O/P's thread, I don't know. It's really a matter of the child's family dynamics and the child's demeanor, his personality, etc.

[straykatz]

On 10/6/2014 Lindsays Grandma said:

On 10/6/2014 GrettaGarbled said:

On 10/6/2014 straykatz said:

Did the mother say this was the reason or did the child say this is why she can't go to public school?

The mother said it to Lindsay's mother. The friend's mother lived in Germany and both children were born and raised there until they moved here several years ago.

Perhaps it's a cultural thing.