Re: How do you get over an ex-husband??

Lila Belle · ‎01-24-2013

Remember why you divorced him in the first place ?

qvcaddition · ‎03-10-2010

My ex husband was homeless for awhile, so I rented him a room in my house and we lived together for thirteen years until I found him dead in his bed in his room one morning. We were married for seven years.

Nuttmeg · ‎03-09-2010

On 2/18/2015 croemer said:
On 2/18/2015 LipstickDiva said:
You need to keep reminding yourself why he's your EX-husband and you aren't still married to him.

I also think you need to stop all communication with him unless it involves the children. If I was his current girlfriend and found out he still had all this unnecessary contact with his ex-wife, I wouldn't be his girlfriend any longer.

${#emotions_dlg.thumbup1}$ This...he is an ex for a reason.

You need to start dating.

madcity411 · ‎03-09-2010

As Betty White would say "the best way to get over an old boyfriend/husband, is to get under another one"!

AnikaBrodie · ‎03-10-2010

Five years is a long time to wait to move on. You are long overdue in closing this chapter of your life and getting out and meeting new people - both male and female. It appears you've become comfortable with your situation and are afraid to cut the cord, so to speak.

In regards to your (adult) children and your ex, you should remain amicable with open communication. However, from a personal standpoint you need to move on. Test the waters, you might be surprised in what you discover.

"Faith, Hope, Love; the greatest of these is Love." ~The Silver Fox~

twocent · ‎03-09-2010

On 2/19/2015 madcity411 said:
As Betty White would say "the best way to get over an old boyfriend/husband, is to get under another one"!

${#emotions_dlg.thumbup1}$

You'll find my heart at the Rainbow Bridge.

qvc chick · ‎03-10-2010

Boy, some of the posters here are brutal !! What happened to kindness???

I know I am my own worst enemy- and it is certainly easier to still hang out with him, because we are very comfortable with each other.

Just for the record - everyone is telling me to make new friends and to get a job.

Well, I have a full time job that I enjoy, and I have tons of friends!!

But friends do NOT always take the place of having a relationship with someone. I think we all know that.

My problem is, it is not easy to meet a guy. And I have done all the hobbies, and meet up groups, etc. Nobody is out there. And I am afraid to do the on line dating scene.

So hopefully this explains the situation!!

Preds · ‎12-17-2012

Brutal...Yes, but you need to hear some of what is being said here. You need to break free of this relationship. Until you do, you won't be open to really finding a new one or learning to enjoy yourself. You need to respect yourself enough to GET AWAY FROM this controlling situation. He is bringing you down and you are allowing it. You didn't divorce him. You paid for a piece of paper and a new home. Gift yourself with a new life ... you have earned it. JUST DO IT for yourself. He is cheating on his girlfriend with you ... does that make you feel better? You of all people should know how that feels. Does she deserve that? What did she ever do to you? She didn't take something from you ... it was never yours.

Fate whispers to her, "You cannot withstand the storm." She whispers back, "I am the storm."

Cranberries · ‎03-09-2010

Some people choose to create their own misery and later choose to wallow in it. If you really want to get over him and move on .. you will.

Cakers1 · ‎03-09-2010

On 2/19/2015 qvc chick said:
Boy, some of the posters here are brutal !! What happened to kindness???

I know I am my own worst enemy- and it is certainly easier to still hang out with him, because we are very comfortable with each other.

Just for the record - everyone is telling me to make new friends and to get a job.

Well, I have a full time job that I enjoy, and I have tons of friends!!

But friends do NOT always take the place of having a relationship with someone. I think we all know that.

My problem is, it is not easy to meet a guy. And I have done all the hobbies, and meet up groups, etc. Nobody is out there. And I am afraid to do the on line dating scene.

So hopefully this explains the situation!!

So what are you saying - that having a relationship with this ex is better than having friends? I don't understand you at all. If it's not "easy to meet a guy" then so be it.

The fact that you see the ex in the light of a "relationship" tells me that you still want more from him no matter the cost. It sounds like he'll "do" because having him is better than nothing.

Sorry but this is twisted. He's your EX not your current husband. He has you, he has a girlfriend, he has access to your account at the hotel etc. etc. etc. And now the adult son is running back to you with info on the new squeeze.

Yikes, girl. Get a grip and move on. 5 years is enough time already.