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[DoneTryin]

Why would you want to hang out with your ex if the two of you mutually decided you did not want to be together any more?

That old pair of shoes may be comfortable, but they no longer fit your lifestyle. Get a new pair & start dancing again!

Good luck!

[sidsmom]

On 2/18/2015 VCamp2748 said:

Why would you want to hang out with your ex if the two of you mutually decided you did not want to be together any more?

That old pair of shoes may be comfortable, but they no longer fit your lifestyle. Get a new pair & start dancing again!

Good luck!

"...shoes". Reminds me of the saying, "shoes under the bed"...if there's still a little sumthin-sumthin goin' on, that would just complicate things more....and make the break even harder.

[RainCityGirl]

You get over it one bad memory or betrayal at a time. Move on and remove him from your life.

[missy1]

If I was his gf , I would have a problem with you calling/hanging out with her man. You have adult children now, so move on on.

[naturalfan]

My first husband made it really easy - he was trying to get money off of me. In fact, he still is trying, 20 years later. By the way, I remarried and much, much better the second time around. In fact, now that I think of it, many of my friends are married a second time and are a lot happier than they were during the first marriage. Some have remained single after a bad marriage (or were never married) and are happy being single and living life the way the choose to.

[child prodigy]

On 2/18/2015 chrystaltree said:

On 2/18/2015 hulagirl said:

On 2/18/2015 CouponQueen said:

On 2/18/2015 hulagirl said:

While "dating" him, have you also been sleeping with him, too?? This adds a whole new emotional attachment that you haven't disclosed in this post and is another good reason you can't get on with things in your own life.

I don't think she said the relationship continued in that aspect or at least I didn't take it that way.

I know she didn't say that...........that is why I asked her the question. That would be pretty important if she left it out in explaining her relationship with him right now. It would add another dimension to the whole situation.

No she didn't "say" that but I'd bet my last dollar that it was a "ex's with benefits" type of friendship and that's one reason why seeing him with a real girlfriend hurts her so much. It's a situation that is not at all uncommon with divorced people. It does make the moving on that much harder.

There is a possibility they are but even if they aren't, this guy's got it made!!!!! He gets to have his cake and eat it too. He doesn't even have to feel guilty since OP is clinging to him. He knows he can come back to you if the thing with the gf does'nt work out. He'll use you and break your heart all over again. Stop dating him!!! Plus, you can't be open to a new relationship unless you stop running around with him.

[Pickwickpapers]

You asked so IMHO YOU are your own worst enemy.......you are allowing an ex who betrayed you multiple times to continue to control you. Why you would continue to be friends with the ex is not good. You can be civil in relationship to the children but any more than civil is not good. If you continue the daily phone calls, dining out and shopping together you will NEVER find other friends and certainly not a new guy. A few more years will pass and one day the ex will find a woman who he wants to marry.......The new wife will NOT put up with your relationship with her new hubby and then you will be again out. I am sorry if what I have said is tough but please dump him.......He is manipulating you.........find a new group of girl friends or a new guy or a new hobby.........volunteer..........get a part time job.........being divorced means you start a life anew.......Starting over is difficult but it has to be done for you to ever have any piece of mind and control of your life.........good luck.

[blackhole99]

Looks like your X has his cake and eats it too, tell him you don't want to see him socially any more and move on.

[jeanlake]

I'm sorry this is hurtful for you, qvc chick. You two have a long history together and that history is hard to step away from. I hear my friends speak of the 'new normal' and getting to a place of acceptance. I wish you luck and peace of mind.

[Love my grandkids]

Stop dating him. Time to cut the cord and move on with your life. But I seriously wonder if you will...