Re: How do you get over an ex-husband??

sidsmom · ‎11-25-2011

Another thought...if you have the means & inclination, maybe consider selling your 5-blocks-away condo & purchase something in a different part of town. That neck of the woods holds lots of memories.

Moving away? Consider it a re-birth...a clean slate with a new environment. Fresh Start!!

qvc chick · ‎03-10-2010

He doesn't have my hotel account number...he just called in to make the reservation, and since we have same last name, they were able to look it up.

I know what you guys are telling me is good advice. However, it is still hard to cut off communication with someone that you were with for 30 years.

I have a job I like, and I am in the travel business, so I can get away anytime I want.

Weekends are hard. Most friends are married, and on weekends they do stuff with their own families.

I do not have any family in my area...it's not like I have brothers/sisters to hang with.

I have friends, but you can't expect them to be with you every second. They are busy too.

I feel very lonely at times. And I just don't know where to begin to meet anyone. I am in my mid 50's, no health problems, and think I am a fun person, Lol.

kristan · ‎03-13-2010

You need to move on.

HULAGIRL · ‎03-10-2010

Obviously, you're still dating him and don't want any competition....good grief, stop deluding yourself with the excuses you make to go out to dinner/shopping/etc. with him. The house is now his and so is his life. Tell your children to speak only to him if they have issues with him dating and not to bring info./gossip/etc. to you......they sound like they're adult enough to deal with those issues directly with him. You need to get out more and get a life.

Lipstickdiva · ‎03-10-2010

QVC Chick maybe you need to join some groups. Are there any groups for the type of business you are in? Local Chamber of Commerce? Volunteering in the evenings or on weekends? Any kind of networking groups?

My sister is single, never been married and had the issue of her best friend being married with several children. Long story short, she got into various networking groups and has met a number of great women she has become good friends with. She also has met several nice men she has gone out with.

KittyLouSoutenu · ‎02-15-2015

Of course it's HARD. Why would you think otherwise?

Put on your big girl panties and CUT HIM OFF. Unless you have to deal with him because of your kids.

The man is playing with you because you're letting him. He has moved on. You need to do the same.

KittyLouSoutenu · ‎02-15-2015

And MOVE!

Topaz Gem · ‎03-10-2010

Like others have said, cut the ties ASAP. Even though you're divorced, he's still having his cake and eating it too. Since your kids are grown, there's no need for day-to-day contact. Even if you have to go to a movie by yourself, get out of the house and away from the phone (keep your cell phone turned off too).

Start looking for hobbies and interests. Take an exercise class. Many local universities and colleges offer free classes for people over 50 (presuming you are in that age group). Once you're out with people, you'll begin to let go which you need to do before anything else. There is someone waiting in the wings, but he can't get to you until you cut the emotional ties.

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