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[Trinity11]

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@goldensrbest wrote:

When a person dies, it was their time to do so.

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I don't believe it. I miscarried a child. If anyone had told me that at the time, I would have thought of them as an insensitive clod.

[Shorty2U]

No, I don't think there's a set time for everyone to die. All kinds of factors come into play as to why and when someone dies. Another words, its not set up when you are born or something (If that is what you are referring to?).

But, I always (to this day) still question why my mom (and many others) died so young, when people (such as murderers) live to old age. That may sound self absorbed but that is how i feel because my mom was a wonderful person! When my mom died young it also made me question my religion and I still have trouble dealing with that too.

[Elvita]

Absolutley not. We influence thatr by the the choices we make in life.

[ECBG]

Personally, I don't feel anyone has a predestined time.  Predestination is part of the Presbyterian doctrine and widely misunderstood. @granny me Predestination means that your actions today destin your (immediate or long range) future (life).  Although I went to an elementary school with the dear nuns, I was reared in the Presbyterian church and heard many sermons on this subject.

I don't believe if we are loved that we are assigned a date to die.  Since all things are known to Him, everything is part of the plan and we can't wrap our head around it.  It is also written that we have free choice which also is a facet of the philosophy of life.

 If you don't care for your body and abuse it, and lose your life, we are told that He is sad.  

Apparently, the other poster's former husband was intuitive.  He felt he was going to die.  I am very intuitive.  I knew about two events when I was about ten years old that did come to pass in the exact time I "knew" they would.  It scared me.  I got into my grandmother's lap and cried and cried.  I have continued to be intuitive since that time and it hasn't been a blessing, but maybe it prepared me for the losses I had.

When people say things like "it was their time" I think they may be thinking of an elderly person whose body has worn out or who is ill.  How many places is it that it is written that we are loved? No one is better, no one is helped when a family loses a beloved member.

I think we just have to trust in divine love.

[software]

I've found it's best to say less, not more.

Sorry for the loss of your dad.

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@Teddie wrote:
Shortly after I lost my dad, I sat at my table with a friend and I was hurting so much and crying. She said every possible cliche you can imagine. Even though I knew she meant well, everything she said hurt me more and I couldn't stop crying. How about just sit with me and tell me how sorry you are? That's all I wanted.

The friendship also died and we no longer see each other. But I've always hated the pat answers some give in trying to make someone feel better.

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[goldensrbest]

I just read that a family that lost their child six weeks ago, just lost another son yesterday in a car accident.

[Tique]

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@goldensrbest wrote:

I just read that a family that lost their child six weeks ago, just lost another son yesterday in a car accident.

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How very sad. I said a prayer for them as I read your post.

I hope no well meaning person will say something insensitive to them.

[beckyb1012]

For me it means they were called home.  I cannot wait to get the call myself.  Happy to be here for now but living my life to be there, with him.

[qualitygal]

Evidentally. It is. 

[goldensrbest]

That is more than any parent should have to deal with.