Re: How do u deal with in-laws that you absolutely... - Page 2

happygolfcartrider · ‎05-10-2013

Why is this thread here and Beauty Banter?

Don't worry, be Happy!

smileshannon · ‎03-09-2010

On 10/19/2014 golfcartrider said:
Why is this thread here and Beauty Banter?

Because I put it in both. After I put it as an O/T in Beauty Banter, I wasn't sure what kind of a response I would get so I put it here.

Love my grandkids · ‎11-24-2013

Makes me wonder how they feel about you. There are 3 sides to every story.

happygolfcartrider · ‎05-10-2013

On 10/19/2014 smileshannon said:
On 10/19/2014 golfcartrider said:
Why is this thread here and Beauty Banter?

Because I put it in both. After I put it as an O/T in Beauty Banter, I wasn't sure what kind of a response I would get so I put it here.

Looks like you are getting a better response in Beauty.

Don't worry, be Happy!

happygolfcartrider · ‎05-10-2013

On 10/19/2014 Love my grandkids said:
Makes me wonder how they feel about you. There are 3 sides to every story.

Well let me just tell you a little something, when a MIL or FIL decides they do not like their DIL for what ever reason there is no changing their mind.

I did nothing to invoke the hate I received except love her son and that was the reason she hated me. I tried my best to get her to like me but she was stubborn.

There are always other sides to every story but for this MIL to turn away her DIL and GD was disgusting to say the least. Even my MIL would NOT have done that.

Do not even try to imply that the OP is at fault unless you do know the whole story and until you do please refrain from making a comment like this.

Don't worry, be Happy!

smileshannon · ‎03-09-2010

On 10/19/2014 Love my grandkids said:
Makes me wonder how they feel about you. There are 3 sides to every story.

I would love to know how they feel about me! I would love to know how they feel about anything!! They show no feeling.

Hayfield · ‎03-10-2010

The reality of it is, we can choose our friends but not our relatives and when we fall in love with someone that doesn't mean that you're going to like/love them and vice versa. My in-laws were lovely people but we just didn't "click". Visiting with them was hard, not because we didn't like each other, it was just boring. Luckily we lived over 200 miles away and they lived near my family, so when we visited we stayed at my mom's and I just visited them. My DH and the kids went to his parents place as often as he wanted to take them, when we were in town, and I just would visit one time, out of respect. If it was a holiday we split the day. I had to be fair, it was their son I was married to and they wanted to see him and their grandchildren. I'll bet that my MIL would've loved a DIL that was crazy about her, some things you can't make happen but you just have to put your big girl pants on and do the best you can. I have two children, their adults and both are currently unattached, part of me is not looking forward to the day when they bring someone home because again, they just may not be crazy about me and vice versa. I'll be respectful, keep my distance and not make demands. My mother passed away in 2001 and I miss her dearly but she was sometimes difficult to deal with but she was my mother, so I dealt with it. It's harder when it's your husband's family. I always tried to remember that they're my DH's family and I did the best I could. All of our parents are gone now.

smileshannon · ‎03-09-2010

On 10/19/2014 golfcartrider said:
On 10/19/2014 smileshannon said:
On 10/19/2014 golfcartrider said:
Why is this thread here and Beauty Banter?

Because I put it in both. After I put it as an O/T in Beauty Banter, I wasn't sure what kind of a response I would get so I put it here.

Looks like you are getting a better response in Beauty.

I agree! I think that category is visited more.

Financialgrl · ‎03-13-2010

Never married but had a sister-in-law I absolutely hated. Not just me, my siblings did not like her either. She'd make nasty comments whenever she was alone with us w/o my brother present. My father was ever the peacemaker and he'd tell us that she made my brother happy so he'd like it if we'd all try to get along. I let an awful lot slide before going off on her and after that my absence from some functions wasn't a big deal anymore which was fine with me.

Prior to that, during family gatherings I just stayed out of the same room she was in. I'd make sure I had something to do so I could leave family outings early. Anything so I didn't have to be around her much. Our situation solved itself - when my brother divorced her.

qualitygal · ‎10-04-2010

wow!! I'm so glad to have had the in laws I did. They were kind and loving and thoughtful. I can't even imagine the situation you're in, I'm so sorry for you and your husband. That must be miserable.