Re: How do I politely say this?

chiclets · ‎07-01-2012

If you have to get involved due to your job position then you must address the person directly because it is your place/job description to deal with the sarcasm and attitude.

Zhills · ‎11-15-2011

@Tink814 wrote:
I work with someone who has a very abrasive personality. She is incredibly negative and blows everything out of proportion. She recently sent a rude email to someone making something seem far worse than it actually is. Sending this email was overstepping her boundaries and is not part of her job description, but what's done is done and I am trying to do damage control now. What would be the best way to tell this person (the one who received the email) that my coworker is negative and dramatic? Keep in mind that there is the possibility that this could get back to her and I really do not want to deal with her sarcasm or attitude.

Excusing the email because she is negative and dramatic is not rude. Especially if you have good examples to give her should she confront you!

I would advise her to consult you rather than send an email on her own!

Facts should not be considered rude if they are true facts! We worked with people with that description and everyone in the office knew it. Not gossip, facts!

MarieIG · ‎03-10-2010

@Tink814 wrote:
I work with someone who has a very abrasive personality. She is incredibly negative and blows everything out of proportion. She recently sent a rude email to someone making something seem far worse than it actually is. Sending this email was overstepping her boundaries and is not part of her job description, but what's done is done and I am trying to do damage control now. What would be the best way to tell this person (the one who received the email) that my coworker is negative and dramatic? Keep in mind that there is the possibility that this could get back to her and I really do not want to deal with her sarcasm or attitude.

If I had to say something, I would criticize the tone of the e-mail rather than the sender.

Do the math.

KathyPet · ‎03-09-2010

I am assuming that the individual who wrote the abusive E Mail does not report to you but the person she sent it to does report to you in some fashion? IF that is the case then I think it needs to be dealt with at your level and the supervisor of the author of the abusive E Mail. IT sounds like it is her supervisors job to deal with her and not yours. I would meet with her supervisor and tell her supervisor that the E Mail was not appropriate and tell her supervisor the author of the E Mail owes your staff member a apology.

ROMARY · ‎04-28-2010

Could be that the victim will contact HR anyway. I'd probably keep out of it until necessary. I'd also be thinking that apologizing for someone else's rude behavior wouldn't be very helpful in the scheme of things. (Including legally.)

'More or less', 'Right or wrong', 'In general', and 'Just thinking out loud ' (as usual).

Noel7 · ‎03-09-2010

Above her doesn't mean much unless she answers to you.

If you supervise her, I don't think you would be asking here. It sounds like you need to stay out of it.

MyGirlsMom · ‎03-09-2010

@Noel7 wrote:
Above her doesn't mean much unless she answers to you.

If you supervise her, I don't think you would be asking here. It sounds like you need to stay out of it.

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true, true..

A Supervisor or Manager would know how to handle the situation.

Keep Your Face To The Sunshine and You Will Not See The Shadow

mzlg · ‎04-28-2011

@MyGirlsMom, I live in So. Calif. - my GS's public high school is out all next week. However, my GD's charter middle school, will have classes on Mon. & Tues. then have Wed., Thurs. & Fri. off.