Community Chat

[Vivian]

That's an interesting question. What first came to mind is that my husband has a shorter temper than I do. He often reacts in the same over-the-top way to insignificant and significant situations alike. I think my temper is more like my father's. I'll control myself in almost all situations, a trait that served me well at work, but on rare occasions I'll blow my top if the provocation is significant.

[151949]

We seem to be polar opposite on everything and rarely agree. However we somehow seem to get along ok.

[IamMrsG]

Married more than 40 years.

DH:  High drama, high maintenance extrovert.  Loves to shop, money burns holes in his pockets. Can’t live without music, especially jazz.
Me:  Low maintenance, introvert.  Don’t dislike shopping, but prefer saving. Passion for old movies.
Both of us:  Practice gratitude, share love for beauty of nature, good food / wine, our home.

[chrystaltree]

I don't know.  I think after 34 years, the things that irk me about my husband just don't bother me anymore.  I've either learned to work around them or I accept them.  We are different in more ways than I can count but it's like a yin and yang thing.  We complete each other.  He's open and gregarious where I am quiet and reserved.  He's very social and I'm not.   He's a workaholic who would never take a real vacation;  I believe that we need vacations and time off to restore us physically and mentally.  He finds it hard to say "no" to people and I have no problem with it at all.  But we always have each other's back, so it all works out.

[Preds]

I'm spontaneous ... he is programmed.  I'm a cat lady ... he dislikes cats.  He wants his underwear folded ... I shove mine in a drawer.  His clothes hang in order in certain areas of his closet.  Mine are wherever I can shove a hanger in.  He has to eat at "meal time".  I eat when I'm hungry.  I'm emotional (don't share that), he hides his emotions (even from me).  He doesn't eat cooked fruit.  I make fruit pies.  He loves to bake and I only do it when I want cooked fruit cobblers or pies.  LOL

There are many more areas that we are different, but it's worked for all these years so I guess it's all good. LOL

[spix]

What a great post, & like the majority here, mine was the same, night & day, but somehow it worked, he's gone now & I miss him terribly

[morganjen]

We're pretty much opposite of each other. 20 years later, still don't have much at all in common. (eek)

[MacDUFF]

He's leather; I'm lace.

He's country; I'm city.

He likes meat and potatoes; I like salad and veggies.

He says tomayto; I say tomahto!

[evergreen]

Politics.  I don't know how James Carville and Mary Matlin do it : )

[Lila Belle]

He's the idea guy and I make them happen.