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[happycat]

It doesn't bother me at all. I'd rather a salesperson or whoever call me honey or dear, than be rude and unfriendly.

[happycat]

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@sydsgma1 wrote:

Is any one else offended by being called honey or dear by sales people, check out clerks, members of the medical profession etc. I may have silver hair, but I am highly educated and perfectly competent.  Arghhhhh!!!!

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This is probably a dumb question, but what does being highly educated and perfectly competent have to do with it?

[suzyQ3]

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@happycat wrote:

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@sydsgma1 wrote:

Is any one else offended by being called honey or dear by sales people, check out clerks, members of the medical profession etc. I may have silver hair, but I am highly educated and perfectly competent.  Arghhhhh!!!!

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This is probably a dumb question, but what does being highly educated and perfectly competent have to do with it?

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@happycat, the OP, along with several others, think that use of endearments in some cases is condescending -- as in, don't worry your prettly lttle head -- the implication being that the person thinks that you are not as competent or smart as he (or she) is.

[happycat]

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@suzyQ3 wrote:

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@happycat wrote:

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@sydsgma1 wrote:

Is any one else offended by being called honey or dear by sales people, check out clerks, members of the medical profession etc. I may have silver hair, but I am highly educated and perfectly competent.  Arghhhhh!!!!

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This is probably a dumb question, but what does being highly educated and perfectly competent have to do with it?

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@happycat, the OP, along with several others, think that use of endearments in some cases is condescending -- as in, don't worry your prettly lttle head -- the implication being that the person thinks that you are not as competent or smart as he (or she) is.

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Thank you, @suzyQ3. I can see where one may not like being told not to "worry their pretty little head". I may not like that myself, depending on the circumstances.

[suzyQ3]

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@happycat wrote:

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@suzyQ3 wrote:

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@happycat wrote:

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@sydsgma1 wrote:

Is any one else offended by being called honey or dear by sales people, check out clerks, members of the medical profession etc. I may have silver hair, but I am highly educated and perfectly competent.  Arghhhhh!!!!

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This is probably a dumb question, but what does being highly educated and perfectly competent have to do with it?

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@happycat, the OP, along with several others, think that use of endearments in some cases is condescending -- as in, don't worry your prettly lttle head -- the implication being that the person thinks that you are not as competent or smart as he (or she) is.

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Thank you, @suzyQ3. I can see where one may not like being told not to "worry their pretty little head". I may not like that myself, depending on the circumstances.

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Just to be clear, @happycat , that is what is sometimes implied, if not outright said.

[Spacrazy]

Actually, I love referrals of endearment and use them often myself.  This lets me know you see me I am a person and you acknowledge my presence in the world - so, thank you sweetie pie.

[topcat10]

NOPE! don't bother me one bit....probably because I am quick to say "Oh Hon" even at work talking on the phone, and if they get offended then all I can say is sorry!

[sashamatthews]

I don't like it.  I am more of a "Ma'am" person.

[sashamatthews]

I should add these are the same people who don't know how to say "thank you."

[qualitygal]

May I?  Short snippet:  dad as he got older couldn't remember the great grandson & great granddaughter's names.  So he use to just say, "the boy" and "the girl".  LOL

Then there's Tarzan and Jane:    BOY  ungowa.  LOL