Re: Holiday gifts firsTot world problems

wagirl · ‎03-09-2010

If it were me I would have a talk to my brother about returning it. Sorry, but the thought is .....nice, I guess--- but if you are not going to use it why store it? Now if you were an audio buff--that would be great, but sounds like you are not. And trying to hide it and then pull it out when he came over--oh good gravy--so much pressure and hassel. Brother will get over it.

Stray · ‎04-20-2013

I really don’t need anything but I truly love buying just the right gift & making people happy. It sounds like your brother put a lot of thought into the gift & was excited. I wouldn’t take his joy away but would find a place for the turntable & enjoy playing your LPs.

haddon9 · ‎03-09-2010

@wagirl Thank you!

goldensrbest · ‎03-10-2010

The other choice would be,if your close to your brother,and on good terms,speak to him explain it to him.

When you lose some one you L~O~V~E, that Memory of them, becomes a TREASURE.

Zoe · ‎06-10-2015

I would do anything to receive just one more gift from my only sibling (who has passed).

It sounds like your brother was actively listening to your story about having thousands of records but no turntable. He picked up on that and selected a very thoughtful present for you. Actively listening throughout the year is when the best gift ideas come up! It is perhaps curious to keep 1000+ records and have nowhere to play them or enjoy the music, but that's your choice.

You seem very set on not keeping this present. So, you should just have a courageous conversation with your brother and tell him that while you appreciate his very thoughtful gift, it's too much & you have nowhere to put it, emphasizing that YES you have 1000+ LPs but keep them just for nostalgia & are OK not playing them or hearing the music. That gives him the opportunity to at least return it and get his money back. Or maybe he would be open to you both gifting it to your daughter instead. Or maybe there is a community center or youth group or senior center that you both support that would welcome such a kind donation. If you can't be honest with your sibling, then who can you be honest with?

Still, I think it was an extremely thoughtful present. And I'd give your brother a big old hug for listening as carefully as he did and gifting you something so generous and thoughtful. Yes, even if you don't want to hold onto the item.

haddon9 · ‎03-09-2010

@Zoe I will give him a bit hug!!!

Actively listening means listening to the whole conversation not just selective hearing. I did say that the reason I don't have a turntable is because I gave it to my daughter because I wasn't using it.....which means I really don't want it.

Thanks for your thoughts. Lots to weigh pros & cons with all of the comments.

San Antonio Gal · ‎05-18-2017

@haddon9 - If you decide to keep it, I like the suggestion of keeping it in your office and asking your brother to help set it up. I don't think putting it on the coffee table is a good idea.

monicakm · ‎03-16-2010

@Tinkrbl44

Keeping things you don't want or keeping things someone gave you to be considerate or keeping things you know you'll no longer use just in case, someday, equal clutter and clutter is the most dangerous of all. It causes depression, it causes Falls, it causes a rodent and insect infestation. She should be able to handle this in a kind and gentle manner. Before my brother died 3 years ago, he gave me his entire knife collection. What was I going to do with a nice collection? I have saved I think three pieces for myself and gave the others away to his stepchildren and close friends. They will be able to enjoy and appreciate them much more than I will. I kept the ones I liked. He gave my husband all of his guns. My husband has a gun safe and is also a collector. He kept all of them. He gave his travel trailer that he lived in to a homeless man that he knew. He gave a few other trinkets to friends and family.

I will miss him at my husband's family Christmas get together today. My parents and he always came. My daughter is bringing my father and one of his nurse aids. I hope it turns out well, my concern is all the noise and a new location. I think your husband will understand more than the others here think he will. You're not 10, you're a mature adult.
And yes I'm speaking from experience. I'm going to have a good time but my mother's memory will never leave the Forefront of my mind. I know she would want me to happy and be my social butterfly self making the rounds and being sure to tell everyone Merry Christmas. I miss her so much but in a good way. I just feel sorry for myself, not her. She is in the presence of her creator and couldn't be happier

faeriemoon · ‎03-14-2010

Are you sure the setup is as complicated as you think? Bluetooth speakers are really not a big deal to set up. You can probably set this thing up quite easily in a bedroom, and enjoy your records when you're in the mood for some nostalgic music.

~What a terrible era in which idiots govern the blind.~ William Shakespeare