Re: Holiday gifts first world problems

Desert Lily · ‎06-24-2011

Turn tables & record albums have regained popularity with some young people. Retailers carry new ones and have a good market for them and LP records.

My millennial child bought a new turn table 2 years ago and ever since has been buying record albums to play on it.

Friends of my child had a turn table & albums for it on their wedding gift list this year.

Receiving a turn table as a Christmas gift isn't that much of a surprise.

If it were me, I'd be grateful that my brother loved & thought so much of me that he bought me a turn table & an album when he heard I [you] gave it to your DD and still had albums.

I wouldn't hurt that brother's feelings. I'd appreciate his thoughtfulness. Maybe I'd refresh my perspective on the turn table.

haddon9 · ‎03-09-2010

@willowbark wrote:
@haddon9 sad actually that a simple discussion led to an assumption that you wanted a turntable. No need to say anything to make your brother feel like a big dope so now unfortunately, it's on you to fake it each year that yes you love your turntable and use it frequently.

@willowbark I would never try to make him feel like a big dope but I don't have the energy to play games pretending that I use the TT regularly.

Thanks for you opinion.

haddon9 · ‎03-09-2010

@Iwantcoffee wrote:
@haddon9 wrote:
@SamBrown It is frustrating! I will consider doing just that.

I know it was an expensive item to get even if he got it at a great Black Friday price. I just don't understand what he was thinking. I never like to give people pricey gifts unless they request it particularly if it requires work and the right space.
You have 1000 LPs and nothing to play them on, it is a thoughtful gift.
If you don't want the work involved, that is not on him.

@Iwantcoffee It's intreresting to see what others think and I appreciate all suggestions. Thanks for your opinion.

Yahooey · ‎07-09-2010

I would be honest - appreciate the gesture and give it to your daughter.

Because lying about it has a way of coming back to bite you $^& especially since he doesnt live far away.

He seemed really escited to surpirse you- the next sentence would be

let's hear it - even if in the bedroom or basement etc The sound must be amazing etc

haddon9 · ‎03-09-2010

@monicakm I will let him know how nice & thoughtful the gift was. Just because I have a lot of LPs doesn't mean that I want a whole stereo system (is that the correct term today?) set up like I did when I was in my twenties. I will have to think some more about how to approach the issue with him.

@Desert Lily I know that LPs have become popular for Millennials today. My Millennial DD loves her small record collection and we were planning on giving her more LPs soon.

haddon9 · ‎03-09-2010

@Yahooey wrote:
I would be honest - appreciate the gesture and give it to your daughter.
Because lying about it has a way of coming back to bite you $^& especially since he doesnt live far away.

He seemed really escited to surpirse you- the next sentence would be
let's hear it - even if in the bedroom or basement etc The sound must be amazing etc

@Yahooey I agree and I don't want to deal with lies.

monicakm · ‎03-16-2010

@haddon9

I think I would skip the whole "just because" sentence. That can come off a little harsh. How about something like would you mind if I exchanged it for something that I would get some use out of. I know it might be a little uncomfortable but I'm sure he would appreciate the honesty when it's all said and done. He obviously doesn't want you to have something you wouldn't enjoy.

haddon9 · ‎03-09-2010

@monicakm wrote:
@haddon9

I think I would skip the whole "just because" sentence. That can come off a little harsh. How about something like would you mind if I exchanged it for something that I would get some use out of. I know it might be a little uncomfortable but I'm sure he would appreciate the honesty when it's all said and done. He obviously doesn't want you to have something you wouldn't enjoy.

@monicakm I was never going to say that. I was just pointing out that since I have A, it doesn't mean I want B to go with it....does that make sesne?

I was going to thank him again for the thoughtful gift and let him know that I really don't have the place or space for it in my family or living rooms.