Re: Holiday gifts first world problems

haddon9 · ‎03-09-2010

@SamBrown wrote:
@haddon9 just thank them and let it be. They don't need to know if you donate it or give it away. If it's ever mentioned, tell them you have it hooked up in your bedroom and you enjoy listening to the records in the evening before bed.

@SamBrown That could be a great idea excpet I need speakers and a reciever for it. Hmmmm maybe the office I could always get those at some point in the future.

haddon9 · ‎03-09-2010

@ValuSkr wrote:
That's a tough one. He must have thought you regretted giving your old TT to your daughter.

I would offer the new TT to your daughter, hoping that she takes it. Then take your old TT back from the daughter and assure your brother that she plays LPs much more than you and will appreciate something "not vintage" and you don't really have room for it in any case.

@ValuSkr It is a serious possibility to give it to DD. The old one is about 50 years old and this new one has bluetooth & has a wireless feature.

SamBrown · ‎03-10-2010

@haddon9 wrote:
@SamBrown wrote:
@haddon9 just thank them and let it be. They don't need to know if you donate it or give it away. If it's ever mentioned, tell them you have it hooked up in your bedroom and you enjoy listening to the records in the evening before bed.
@SamBrown That could be a great idea excpet I need speakers and a reciever for it. Hmmmm maybe the office I could always get those at some point in the future.

@haddon9 don't even bother yourself about all of that. Just get rid of it and if they ask "it's in the bedroom". I received an awful gift from my granddaughter's mother - I didn't even bring it into the house - I put it right in the dumpster where it belonged. (Not saying your turntable belongs in the dumpster - but don't stress over it - get rid of it.

Kachina624 · ‎03-10-2010

@haddon9. I'd come clean and admit I had no use for the turntable or any place to put it. Perhaps if you act now, there is time to return it.

I don't see how you can pretend to enjoy it when it's in the basement.

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haddon9 · ‎03-09-2010

@SamBrown It is frustrating! I will consider doing just that.

I know it was an expensive item to get even if he got it at a great Black Friday price. I just don't understand what he was thinking. I never like to give people pricey gifts unless they request it particularly if it requires work and the right space.

haddon9 · ‎03-09-2010

@Kachina624 wrote:
@haddon9. I'd come clean and admit I had no use for the turntable or any place to put it. Perhaps if you act now, there is time to return it.

I don't see how you can pretend to enjoy it when it's in the basement.

@Kachina624 I'm leaning towards doing that. I will be honest and say that I was very excited (I was!) when I opened it but after some thought I realized that I don't have both the space and right equipment for it.

I just don't want him to feel bad but it would be worse to waste the money on it. I'm sure he can return it.....fingers crossed!

Iwantcoffee · ‎03-11-2010

@haddon9 wrote:
@SamBrown It is frustrating! I will consider doing just that.

I know it was an expensive item to get even if he got it at a great Black Friday price. I just don't understand what he was thinking. I never like to give people pricey gifts unless they request it particularly if it requires work and the right space.

You have 1000 LPs and nothing to play them on, it is a thoughtful gift.

If you don't want the work involved, that is not on him.

hkrgrl · ‎03-13-2022

thoughtful gift, but....

ouch that's a tough one.

i would say "i tried to hook it up but i just don't have all the necessary equipment to really enjoy it." " if you want to come over and try to find a space and hook it up, then come on over"!

something along those lines.

either it gets returned, hopefully or passed onto your daughter.

sad but these things happen all the time!

good luck!!!

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monicakm · ‎03-16-2010

@haddon9

Life hard. Just be honest. Find a way to let your brother know how incredibly nice that was for him to buy the turntable for you. It's the thought that counts. However, you don't use the records and have no place to put the console. Ask him if he would like to return it or give it to your daughter, who would make good use of it. Just be gentle. He will probably understand. He said he lives nearby and you two obviously have a good relationship for him to have bought such an expensive gift. What are you going to say when he comes over and the turntable is not set up and on display? Just be honest.

willowbark · ‎07-20-2025

@haddon9 sad actually that a simple discussion led to an assumption that you wanted a turntable. No need to say anything to make your brother feel like a big dope so now unfortunately, it's on you to fake it each year that yes you love your turntable and use it frequently.