@Burnsite wrote:
I may not be in the majority, but to me if someone wants to give a gift, they shouldn't be told not to.
By definitiion, a gift is given _freely_.
You don't have to send one to reciprocate if you don't wish to. If you don't, she may stop if she is politely continuing an exchange.
I agree with this. Unless I knew someone VERY well and could have the discussion face-to-face, I would tread very carefully. It might be taken as a criticism even when the intent is not that at all.
Lots of people get a great deal of pleasure from giving gifts, shopping for other people, etc. I don't typically buy gifts for a lot of people, but I love finding the perfect thing. This young lady may feel the same way. She may really enjoy giving gifts to people who are special to her.
I'm not saying don't say anything because it really does depend on the personalities of the people involved, how close they are, how well they know each other, etc. I wouldn't go thru her mother for sure. Anything said needs to be said directly to her. In this same situation, I might say something casually when we're actually together, but I'm not sure I would even do that. Especially in this scenario, where the people involved are of different generations. I would worry about appearing to be critical and/or unappreciative of a kind gesture.