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Free2be · ‎03-10-2010

Your talking necessary loud. My father was hard of hearing and one of my son's wears a hearing aid so I know about that disability. Nevermind.

I have to go to the store where I'll try to not be unnecessarily loud, difficult, or problematic in any way. Which reminds me of a guy who left it one day screaming at the top of his lungs because they wouldn't take his check. I'm not overly sensitive to conflict or chaos but it was unnerving even for calm old me. I'm sure a HS person would have cringed, too. Not likely Raven. LOL

Marmalade_1 · ‎01-13-2015

On 2/26/2015 raven-blackbird said:
On 2/26/2015 Free2be said:
Is expecting good manners, that people not be loud in a rude and inconsiderate way, asking the world to change? Perhaps. The resistance to it is odd, to me.

No one is asking or expecting that HSPs be coddled. Not sure how that idea took hold in this conversation.

Let's say a woman is upset about something and cries at her workplace. Either she goes to the bathroom and pulls herself together, goes home for the day wiped out, or gets written up or talked to by a superior. Are any of those acts of coddling? What if most other women would not have cried as she did? Is she simply a PITA? There may be 20 HSPs working around her who don't do that.

If it happens regularly, I'd hazard that she has other issues. All requires a degree of sensitivity from others, not a huge investment on anyone else's part other than perhaps a needed sensitivity training which is something that does happen in many workplaces. I've attended them, maybe that's why I'm bothering to post here.

ever been around someone who is hard of hearing.................ever been around someone who works around loud machinery......a foreman of a crew.......they are loud........real loud, because they don't hear well.....or they get accustomed to yelling over things.......and it's automatic for them............it's not rude, it's how their body/brain compensates for their hearing loss or their enviorment..........................................raven

Exactly. Perhaps the HSP should make allowances for them.

Burnsite · ‎03-10-2010

Thanks for posting the original question, beanie, this has been an interesting thread. I hope you can work things out with your co-worker. Suigeneris, I took the test, not that I think too much about internet testing; but the score was pretty high, 21.

I've always wondered why I score as an mildly extroverted person when I so often have to depressurize on my own. So this was quite interesting for me.

Moonchilde · ‎05-23-2010

On 2/26/2015 Marienkaefer2 said:
On 2/26/2015 Ford1224 said:
On 2/26/2015 moonchilde said:
SFNative, Marmalade has made it a point throughout the thread to dismiss the whole concept of differently-wired HSPs and those with neurological sensitivities as simply bad behavers she only wants to tell off and avoid. I am sure that HSPs are equally adamant about avoiding anyone with the same mindset.

Ah yes, she is such a ray of sunshine, a veritable angel of light!!

People like that have lessons to learn, and life usually teaches it.

It can take awhile, but you're right :-)

Life without Mexican food is no life at all

Moonchilde · ‎05-23-2010

On 2/26/2015 SoftRaindrops said:
On 2/26/2015 Ford1224 said:
On 2/26/2015 moonchilde said:
SFNative, Marmalade has made it a point throughout the thread to dismiss the whole concept of differently-wired HSPs and those with neurological sensitivities as simply bad behavers she only wants to tell off and avoid. I am sure that HSPs are equally adamant about avoiding anyone with the same mindset.

Ah yes, she is such a ray of sunshine, a veritable angel of light!!

Well, I took both tests and it seems the entire family is highly sensitive. I think being highly sensitive isn't the worst thing to be...it makes you feel life more than perhaps someone who is not sensitive to their environment or never puts themselves in the place of others and tries to empathize.

In fact Marmalade doesn't have the sensitivity to understand what being highly sensitive people are and perhaps she is missing out in some ways. That's pretty much how I look at it. Whether she has empathy....I guess I don't feel the need for anyone's empathy because I think being highly sensitive has its own set of rewards.

I wouldn't change the people I love who are highly sensitive either. They are warm, caring individuals. I see being highly sensitive as a good thing and not a negative. The good aspects outweigh the bad. (perhaps Marmalade is thinking of touchy people which has nothing to do with being highly sensitive)

I really enjoyed this topic and learned a lot from it. Thank you for everyone's contributions.

While there are certainly downsides to being HSP and sensory defensive, on the whole I have always felt I have lived an internally rich life, with a love of books, art, and music, and a great imagination. It would be nice to have someone in my life (friend, partner, co-worker, whatever) with whom I could share my worlds, but I'd honestly rather *have* those worlds and that inner life, even alone, than not have it at all. And I would not choose to be different. I like me as I am.

Life without Mexican food is no life at all

raven-blackbird · ‎06-03-2010

On 2/26/2015 moonchilde said:
On 2/26/2015 Marienkaefer2 said:
On 2/26/2015 Ford1224 said:
On 2/26/2015 moonchilde said:
SFNative, Marmalade has made it a point throughout the thread to dismiss the whole concept of differently-wired HSPs and those with neurological sensitivities as simply bad behavers she only wants to tell off and avoid. I am sure that HSPs are equally adamant about avoiding anyone with the same mindset.

Ah yes, she is such a ray of sunshine, a veritable angel of light!!

People like that have lessons to learn, and life usually teaches it.

It can take awhile, but you're right :-)

seriously ${#emotions_dlg.huh}$ .............she warrants those kinds of statements simply because she hold a different opinion then you all do???????????????........................................raven

We're not in Kansas anymore ToTo

raven-blackbird · ‎06-03-2010

On 2/26/2015 moonchilde said:
On 2/26/2015 SoftRaindrops said:
On 2/26/2015 Ford1224 said:
On 2/26/2015 moonchilde said:
SFNative, Marmalade has made it a point throughout the thread to dismiss the whole concept of differently-wired HSPs and those with neurological sensitivities as simply bad behavers she only wants to tell off and avoid. I am sure that HSPs are equally adamant about avoiding anyone with the same mindset.

Ah yes, she is such a ray of sunshine, a veritable angel of light!!

Well, I took both tests and it seems the entire family is highly sensitive. I think being highly sensitive isn't the worst thing to be...it makes you feel life more than perhaps someone who is not sensitive to their environment or never puts themselves in the place of others and tries to empathize.

In fact Marmalade doesn't have the sensitivity to understand what being highly sensitive people are and perhaps she is missing out in some ways. That's pretty much how I look at it. Whether she has empathy....I guess I don't feel the need for anyone's empathy because I think being highly sensitive has its own set of rewards.

I wouldn't change the people I love who are highly sensitive either. They are warm, caring individuals. I see being highly sensitive as a good thing and not a negative. The good aspects outweigh the bad. (perhaps Marmalade is thinking of touchy people which has nothing to do with being highly sensitive)

I really enjoyed this topic and learned a lot from it. Thank you for everyone's contributions.

While there are certainly downsides to being HSP and sensory defensive, on the whole I have always felt I have lived an internally rich life, with a love of books, art, and music, and a great imagination. It would be nice to have someone in my life (friend, partner, co-worker, whatever) with whom I could share my worlds, but I'd honestly rather *have* those worlds and that inner life, even alone, than not have it at all. And I would not choose to be different. I like me as I am.

so as a "HSP"............you're happy in your own skin and your own mind.......and that's all that some of us have been sayin..............you found a way to make your stuff work for you....................good for you ${#emotions_dlg.thumbup}$ .................................................raven

We're not in Kansas anymore ToTo

VioletEyes · ‎03-12-2010

On 2/26/2015 moonchilde said:
On 2/26/2015 SoftRaindrops said:
On 2/26/2015 Ford1224 said:
On 2/26/2015 moonchilde said:
SFNative, Marmalade has made it a point throughout the thread to dismiss the whole concept of differently-wired HSPs and those with neurological sensitivities as simply bad behavers she only wants to tell off and avoid. I am sure that HSPs are equally adamant about avoiding anyone with the same mindset.

Ah yes, she is such a ray of sunshine, a veritable angel of light!!

Well, I took both tests and it seems the entire family is highly sensitive. I think being highly sensitive isn't the worst thing to be...it makes you feel life more than perhaps someone who is not sensitive to their environment or never puts themselves in the place of others and tries to empathize.

In fact Marmalade doesn't have the sensitivity to understand what being highly sensitive people are and perhaps she is missing out in some ways. That's pretty much how I look at it. Whether she has empathy....I guess I don't feel the need for anyone's empathy because I think being highly sensitive has its own set of rewards.

I wouldn't change the people I love who are highly sensitive either. They are warm, caring individuals. I see being highly sensitive as a good thing and not a negative. The good aspects outweigh the bad. (perhaps Marmalade is thinking of touchy people which has nothing to do with being highly sensitive)

I really enjoyed this topic and learned a lot from it. Thank you for everyone's contributions.

While there are certainly downsides to being HSP and sensory defensive, on the whole I have always felt I have lived an internally rich life, with a love of books, art, and music, and a great imagination. It would be nice to have someone in my life (friend, partner, co-worker, whatever) with whom I could share my worlds, but I'd honestly rather *have* those worlds and that inner life, even alone, than not have it at all. And I would not choose to be different. I like me as I am.

And a lot of us who were born HSP feel exactly the same. Smile

occasionalrain · ‎03-10-2010

On 2/17/2015 JuJu Squeezie said:
I guess I thought we were talking about being a "Highly Sensitive" person. My mistake.

Now I see it's about rude people, spoiled brats, temper tantrums etc. manipulating others to to get their own way.

Stick your heads back in the ground and have a nice day.

Those making judgement calls as to the HSP being flawed, spoiled, mental, notice that they are of the controlling persuasion, charge in and do or say whatever pleases them and expect others to just accept it. Nothing diplomatic about them.

sfnative · ‎03-10-2010

On 2/27/2015 occasional rain said:
On 2/17/2015 JuJu Squeezie said:
I guess I thought we were talking about being a "Highly Sensitive" person. My mistake.

Now I see it's about rude people, spoiled brats, temper tantrums etc. manipulating others to to get their own way.

Stick your heads back in the ground and have a nice day.

Those making judgement calls as to the HSP being flawed, spoiled, mental, notice that they are of the controlling persuasion, charge in and do or say whatever pleases them and expect others to just accept it. Nothing diplomatic about them.

Thank you, occasional rain, returning to paint a clear and truthful picture.

After some of the remarks made yesterday and as a mother of a highly sensitive daughter who also had an immune system challenge and was ill a lot as a child, I was brought back to all of those years, which were rather quite miserable. The closest I can come to describing it is as a slight case of PTSD, it was that bad. This may account for the reason why I slept so little last night. You brightened my day by your post. Thanks, again.