Re: Have you ever...

MaggieMack · ‎10-01-2014

@AliJoi5, hi Little Miss Sweetness. All of us here know it would never be in your heart to ridicule a child, much less a disabled one. If I was a mom and thought that some some little high school twerp ridiculed my disabled child, I would have pulled said twerp outside and given them a lesson in life.

I tend end to agree with the side that says let it go. I have heard too many similar stories and it always seems the supposed injured party had no recollection of the incident. You asked if any of us had a similar situation. I am sure many of us have said words that were hurtful that we would take back, if possible. Especially if our words were received differently than they were intended.

So, here's something you can try, maybe it will serve to assuage some of the guilt you have carried for these many years. Write the apology, be sincere, be wordy, get it all out, go overboard. Then take that paper, crumble it into a little ball and put a match to it. Release all of that energy to the universe. You might be surprised at the miracles that occur in spirit.

No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted. - Aesop

Noel7 · ‎03-09-2010

Hi Ali,

I don't know if anyone has suggested this yet, but I am thinking that because you run into her every so often, she must live in the area.

My suggestion would be to write a letter to her explaining the situation. I would think it wouldn't be that hard to find her since you know her name and her husband's name.

Good luck!

SaRina · ‎04-17-2015

Another thing occurred to me --

I know that overly sensitive people (myself included) are known to mis-perceive things. If that is possible in this situation, perhaps it's better not to open a can of worms and apologize for something you may have mis-perceived and that may not, in fact, be true at all.

Drythe · ‎07-09-2011

@AliJoi5 @chickenbutt

Hey,

Glad you found one another!

If it bothers you I think you should make an effort. Since you are already avoiding your former teacher and her hubby, seems things can only get better.

Yep, it would bother me too.

As the lady said, I chew a problem to death and when all the flavor is gone I stick it in my hair.

"Animals are not my whole world, but they have made my world whole" ~ Roger Caras

AliJoi5 · ‎03-10-2010

Aww thanks @ladyroxanne! That's very sweet of you to say. BTW, your new avi pup is darling! Is she a pomeranian? They always look like they're smiling. Adorbs!

ladyroxanne · ‎03-09-2010

@AliJoi5

thank you ali. yes she is a pom and she is almost always smiling!

magicmoodz · ‎03-16-2010

@AliJoi5

Isn't it awful how circumstances can haunt us for years?

I agree with those who have suggested you write a letter explaining what happened on that fateful day and how it has made you feel all these years. Then SEND THE LETTER.

This can do no harm and if, in fact, she has remembered you all these years for assuming you were making fun of her daughter, it will clear the air. But most importantly, I believe it will be healing to you.

QVCkitty1 · ‎05-23-2015

I worked with a woman for over 20 years, and now she won't speak to me. She's a tough one so

I'm afraid our relationship is over. She has done this to others, and I could go on for days about her quirks, but it still hurts, because I thought we were friends. My mistake.

" You are entitled to your opinion. But you are not entitled to your own facts."
Daniel Patrick Moynihan

AliJoi5 · ‎03-10-2010

@MaggieMack wrote:
@AliJoi5, hi Little Miss Sweetness. All of us here know it would never be in your heart to ridicule a child, much less a disabled one. If I was a mom and thought that some some little high school twerp ridiculed my disabled child, I would have pulled said twerp outside and given them a lesson in life.

I tend end to agree with the side that says let it go. I have heard too many similar stories and it always seems the supposed injured party had no recollection of the incident. You asked if any of us had a similar situation. I am sure many of us have said words that were hurtful that we would take back, if possible. Especially if our words were received differently than they were intended.

So, here's something you can try, maybe it will serve to assuage some of the guilt you have carried for these many years. Write the apology, be sincere, be wordy, get it all out, go overboard. Then take that paper, crumble it into a little ball and put a match to it. Release all of that energy to the universe. You might be surprised at the miracles that occur in spirit.

"...said twerp..." lol! It would have been so much better had she done that so I could have cleared the air right then and there! But I like the way you think and I'm definitely taking it under advisement @MaggieMack. And ditto on the sweetness, my little zeppole!!

I love the many thoughtful responses I've received here. It got me thinking (oh no)... a bit O/T, but... it's funny how as we age, the things that are important in life come into focus. Naturally, a part of that is knowing that our time here with one another grows more precious by the day. I'm not religious and I don't pray, but the one thing I always find myself "asking for" is to be my best self. And I think everyone who "gets it" knows exactly what I'm talking about. If anyone is a student of psychology (my minor) and remembers Maslow's hierarchy of needs pyramid, then you might share in my ultimate goal. In my lifetime, I want to reach the apex of that pyramid... "self-actualization." Long way to go and I'm not sure I'll ever get there. But I figure it's a win-win to try! Anyway!