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[terrier3]

Ford - I think they got a lot of their grit and determination from you!

I hope all of you will find time to celebrate this weekend.

[LilacTree]

On 8/29/2014 Irshgrl31201 said:

That is really great news Ford, and I am so happy for you and your daughters. You seem very close with your girls and I am sure they are very happy to have a mom like you!

We three are very close. We help each other in different ways, they do the physical stuff for me, and I do the research and writing stuff for them (non-physical), because they are so busy . . . and I have nothing but time. They also drive me to and from my many doctor/dentist appts, pick up my prescriptions, and clean my house (they take turns). Whatever comes up, we help each other. One of them is sick now herself though and we are trying desperately to find out what's wrong with her. I have a post about that in Health and Wellness.

I am estranged from my oldest daughter. That is a very long story, and my one deep sadness. It has been four years now, and I have tried to reach out, but it just isn't going to happen. Thankfully, my granddaughter and I do get together and we have a loving relationship. It's hard though because she has a lot of love and loyalty to her mom, which gives me so much peace, but I think is hard on her. My daughter has removed herself from our family and if it wasn't for my granddaughter, she would have no one. I've got to think that deep down inside she feels a loss, but I will never know. My granddaughter and I do not discuss it. I would, but she would not, I don't blame her, she's young and it would be too upsetting.

[LilacTree]

On 8/30/2014 terrier3 said:

Ford - I think they got a lot of their grit and determination from you!

I hope all of you will find time to celebrate this weekend.

Thanks, terrier3. Not this weekend, but soon.

[LilacTree]

On 8/28/2014 feline groovy said:

OMG, JSS . . . I've never seen a praying mantis with its tail open. Wow!!

[LilacTree]

On 8/28/2014 Colonel Meow said:

On 8/28/2014 baker said:

Congrats to your daughters, especially if they are college grads, they'll need it to pay off their college loans if they have them.

You ain't kiddin', lol!

Ford - congrats on the success of your daughters (which is your success, as well)!

Oh, they had them for sure, but they are finally paid off, thank goodness.

[LilacTree]

On 8/28/2014 kdgn said:

Very good for both of your daughters! You can breathe a little easier regarding the youngest- I know you've been worried.

Yes. It was getting scary there for a while. She really likes this job, but the salary is not anywhere near what she used to make. She is hopeful that after six months to a year, that will improve. The benefits are good though, and she likes the work and the people. She really needed to be around people more . . . and her commute is excellent, only ten minutes away!!

She will still need to do a lot of freelance work to make up the difference. But she's very strong and healthy, so hopefully it won't take too much out of her.

[ivanatrump]

On 8/30/2014 Ford1224 said:

On 8/29/2014 Irshgrl31201 said:

That is really great news Ford, and I am so happy for you and your daughters. You seem very close with your girls and I am sure they are very happy to have a mom like you!

We three are very close. We help each other in different ways, they do the physical stuff for me, and I do the research and writing stuff for them (non-physical), because they are so busy . . . and I have nothing but time. They also drive me to and from my many doctor/dentist appts, pick up my prescriptions, and clean my house (they take turns). Whatever comes up, we help each other. One of them is sick now herself though and we are trying desperately to find out what's wrong with her. I have a post about that in Health and Wellness.

I am estranged from my oldest daughter. That is a very long story, and my one deep sadness. It has been four years now, and I have tried to reach out, but it just isn't going to happen. Thankfully, my granddaughter and I do get together and we have a loving relationship. It's hard though because she has a lot of love and loyalty to her mom, which gives me so much peace, but I think is hard on her. My daughter has removed herself from our family and if it wasn't for my granddaughter, she would have no one. I've got to think that deep down inside she feels a loss, but I will never know. My granddaughter and I do not discuss it. I would, but she would not, I don't blame her, she's young and it would be too upsetting.

It nice to be close to your children. As for all they do for you, don't you pay them to do these things with your LTC insurance payouts?

[ROMARY]

Ford1234: That's a true benefit, having daughters who live nearby. And, also, most (actually all) of my longtime friends' daughters have attended colleges and eventually settled down with their spouses/families in very nearby locations. Sons, too. Truly 'win-win' situations, in many cases.

[Giordan]

[LilacTree]

On 8/30/2014 ivanatrump said:

On 8/30/2014 Ford1224 said:

On 8/29/2014 Irshgrl31201 said:

That is really great news Ford, and I am so happy for you and your daughters. You seem very close with your girls and I am sure they are very happy to have a mom like you!

We three are very close. We help each other in different ways, they do the physical stuff for me, and I do the research and writing stuff for them (non-physical), because they are so busy . . . and I have nothing but time. They also drive me to and from my many doctor/dentist appts, pick up my prescriptions, and clean my house (they take turns). Whatever comes up, we help each other. One of them is sick now herself though and we are trying desperately to find out what's wrong with her. I have a post about that in Health and Wellness.

I am estranged from my oldest daughter. That is a very long story, and my one deep sadness. It has been four years now, and I have tried to reach out, but it just isn't going to happen. Thankfully, my granddaughter and I do get together and we have a loving relationship. It's hard though because she has a lot of love and loyalty to her mom, which gives me so much peace, but I think is hard on her. My daughter has removed herself from our family and if it wasn't for my granddaughter, she would have no one. I've got to think that deep down inside she feels a loss, but I will never know. My granddaughter and I do not discuss it. I would, but she would not, I don't blame her, she's young and it would be too upsetting.

It nice to be close to your children. As for all they do for you, don't you pay them to do these things with your LTC insurance payouts?

Ah, yes I do . . . they don't want to take it, but I make them take it. It wouldn't matter to me where the money was coming from, I would pay them if I had it, and I now have it.

Interesting that you would know about that as you weren't around when that was going on . . . nic change perhaps?