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[occasionalrain]

@Mominohio 

No time to think of former friends and wonder what ever happened to your friend Nancy or that cute boy you should have pursued high school.

[Mominohio]

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@occasionalrain wrote:

@Mominohio 

No time to think of former friends and wonder what ever happened to your friend Nancy or that cute boy you should have pursued high school.

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As much as I love history, and as much as I miss those who have passed on in my life, and even as much as I loved high school, I never looked back. When it was over, it was over and I've moved on. I kind of do that with every phase of my life, and I've enjoyed most every phase and the people in those phases.

Different people for different phases of life, with very few going throughout my life entirely. I have a couple of people from my childhood/school years that I have stayed in touch with, I have my best friend that I met in the early 1990's and I have family that I have maintained lifetime connections with, but everyone else was just a coworker, or fellow mom (when kid was in sports or school), or part of a church family while we were with that church. They were there for a time, when our lives crossed. Many I think of and remember fondly, none do I truly care to reconnect with or keep up with what is currently going on in their lives. 

For me, I can have hundreds of people at any given time that I'm interacting with at church/school/job etc. but my core group of people that I care enough to keep in touch with is rather small. I feel I don't need a lot of 'friends', I only need a few really great people in my life. The rest are just where they are while they are supposed to be, and aren't meant to be lifelong attachments for me.

[HonestLife]

@Mominohio  I couldn't have stated it better. 

[Snowpuppy]

I wonder when the phrase "I moved on.." became popular?

My Gram who moved several states away when she married took time to write letters and send Christmas cards some 40+ years after marriage. She kept roots to her family and had penpals. It was considered an obligation of love and respect.

While I don't FB I gave thought to why some people who once were important to me are no longer in contact? In just about every circumstance they decided to "move on" after being caught doing some pretty shady stuff.

Just cleared up a bunch of questions for me!

[Daisy Sunflower]

If someone from my past had gotten in touch with me during lockdown, I'd think it was because they didn't have anything better to do.

[occasionalrain]

@Daisy Sunflower 

No matter that being in lock down may have them bored, out of all the people they've known in the past, they thought of you. It's nice to be remembered?

[Zhills]

I have reconnected with several old friends on FB.  Many are not on FB because we were the pre-computer generation and they do not use it.

I find it quite rewarding to "chat a minute" on messenger and reminiscence about some fond moments and life experiences and mutual friends.

Life isn't the same, but our memories are, and it is fun to catch-up with their life happenings and babies and grandbabies, etc. 

Just recently lost the last high school '55 classmate on FB but some of the younger ones are on here.

Chat often with coworkers from the early '60s.

Personally, I enjoy it very much!

[Daisy Sunflower]

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I would wonder why, after all this time, they wanted to get in touch.

[Mersha]

My graduating class consisted of over 2,000 students so there were many that I did not know.

There is a reunion coming up and a Facebook page has been made for people to check in and advise if you will be attending.

Honestly, of the people that I remember, after looking at their Facebook pages, reconnecting is the last thing that I would want to do.

[occasionalrain]

@Daisy Sunflower 

That's rather cynical, but maybe you're right. I prefer to think it positive unless the person shows it to be otherwise.