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[Pook]

On 9/15/2014 Hildegarde Withers said:

On 9/15/2014 Pook said:

Brings to mind a coworker of mine who had 3 kids and a very busy life. When we would be talking and we would all be telling about what we did the night before she would just say "oh nothing to write home about". Then one day I ran into a former classmate of mine who was visiting from out of town and she asked me if I knew the woman who worked with me. She proceeded to say that this woman would bring daily meals to her aging parents who had medical issues, do their laundry and help with their housework and often did grocery shopping for them. She never said a word to anyone about it nor was a complainer that she never had time for anything like we always did. T

But she had told that other lady about all she did for her parents.

You said the co-worker had a very busy life so she must have talked about her life. It's only normal.

I'd rather have someone tell me about their "good deeds" they did for that day than for them to tell me they did nothing. What a boring conversation that would be.

What's wrong with telling the truth?

Reread (I underlined it) what I wrote and I did not say that!! The former classmate visiting from out of town was told this by her parents - NOT MY COWORKER!!!

Of course she would talk about her children and their activities and from that it was obvious she had a busy life. I never said she never talked about anything (what she talked about is irrelevant to this post) - just that she didn't brag about helping her neighbors!! The point being those that really do acts of kindness don't go blabbing it all over for the praise. Only superficial people would do that and what an unpleasant conversation that would be to hear about day after day.

It's obvious you are just trying to be confrontational and picky!! If it makes you feel better then have fun!!

Just to clarify, I don't know those on here so I can't speak for their sincerity. It's just how it comes across in all these posts.

[Suziepeach]

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[MOONRISER]

I have never paid for someone's dinner, lunch etc. Randomly paying for others could be utterly embarrassing to them and makes you look condescending. There are many ways to pay it forward and assuming you know what they need is a form of superiority. If people are out eating, I don't think they need financial aid. Many many people in this nation go hungry every day, those are the ones I would contribute to. Just MY opinion!

[foundinlv]

On 9/15/2014 MOONRISER said: I have never paid for someone's dinner, lunch etc. Randomly paying for others could be utterly embarrassing to them and makes you look condescending. There are many ways to pay it forward and assuming you know what they need is a form of superiority. If people are out eating, I don't think they need financial aid. Many many people in this nation go hungry every day, those are the ones I would contribute to. Just MY opinion!

I tend to agree with you as you can't go by how a person looks or is dressed, many people with money dress down especially when they go grocery shopping. When I was working, a colleague told me that there were numerous times when complete strangers paid for her groceries because she is black yet she has always been employed and so has her husband. She said she felt tongue tied and embarrassed to say anything so she just let them do it. Big eye opener but people seem to have an emotional need to do it so I agree with her...just let them.

[terrier3]

On 9/15/2014 Hildegarde Withers said:

On 9/15/2014 MOONRISER said: I have never paid for someone's dinner, lunch etc. Randomly paying for others could be utterly embarrassing to them and makes you look condescending. There are many ways to pay it forward and assuming you know what they need is a form of superiority. If people are out eating, I don't think they need financial aid. Many many people in this nation go hungry every day, those are the ones I would contribute to. Just MY opinion!

I know. I had mentioned that I might wonder if my family and I looked poor.

Don't worry. I think the chances of having anyone buy your meal are pretty slim.

[Preds]

On 9/15/2014 Hildegarde Withers said:

Some "brag" about the goods deed they do

and

Some brag that they do good deeds, but don't "brag" about it.

LOL

And some simply do good deeds and mention it in their posts as what they did for the day. That is not bragging. That is a reminder to them and us to remember to lend a hand, smile at someone, say "Thank You.", and be respectful of others ... like we would like to respected ... and hope that their simple act will effect that person to do the same. A simple reminder of love one another.

[Mama Mia]

On 9/15/2014 Preds said:

On 9/15/2014 Hildegarde Withers said:

Some "brag" about the goods deed they do

and

Some brag that they do good deeds, but don't "brag" about it.

LOL

And some simply do good deeds and mention it in their posts as what they did for the day. That is not bragging. That is a reminder to them and us to remember to lend a hand, smile at someone, say "Thank You.", and be respectful of others ... like we would like to respected ... and hope that their simple act will effect that person to do the same. A simple reminder of love one another.

Very nice, Preds.

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[Preds]

Thanks Mama! Hope you are doing well. I've been thinking about you!

[151949]

On 9/15/2014 baddest_dog said:

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On 9/15/2014 Lila Belle said:

On 9/15/2014 hopeQ1 said:

NO ACT OF KINDNESS HONORS GOD IF YOU HAVE TO BRAG ABOUT IT AFTERWARDS.

I haven't noticed anyone bragging, just relating experiences where they paid it forward.

Why would a thread about kindness bring out so many negative responses ?

When someone "relates the experience" they are bragging.

oy vey - then everybody is a braggart. Ones who go on about their mackie clothes, etc are braggarts.

At least here, it was done for someone else, not something that someone bought for themselves

It is bragging. When someone on here states they have 15 pairs of Uggs, 10 pairs of Frye boots, 5 leather jackets and many, many Dooneys, one can only mentally add up what all that costs and wonder why someone feels the need to tell strangers how much money they spend on material things. Wouldn't it be easier to just say "I wear Uggs or Frye boots and let it end at that? Of course, the other posters won't have the opportunity to say things like "why do you care how I spend my money, I earn it" or things of that nature.

And that's just my opinion. No need for anyone to feel sad that "I don't get it". I do get it. I think the OP did a nice thing. But I'm not going to use that as a jumping off point to tell anyone else about any good deeds I have done lately.

She only posted that to start a fight because i started a thread about getting compliments at church about a Mackie sweater and how everyone likes him and what a nice man he is. It was bait - don't bite on it.

[151949]

On 9/15/2014 MOONRISER said: I have never paid for someone's dinner, lunch etc. Randomly paying for others could be utterly embarrassing to them and makes you look condescending. There are many ways to pay it forward and assuming you know what they need is a form of superiority. If people are out eating, I don't think they need financial aid. Many many people in this nation go hungry every day, those are the ones I would contribute to. Just MY opinion!

i think many of the people here and across our country do not realize how many people are starving in the USA. How many children only get one meal a day - their school lunch, and in the summer they don't even get that.