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Yesterday my doorbell rings, it was about 5:00 pm. It was dark, I couldn’t see that well, I thought it might be a delivery, so I opened the door. It was a man and his teenage son going through a whole spiel about raising money for college. He wanted a $50 donation, which is a lot of money to give someone I have never seen. I said I couldn’t afford it. He then said my neighbor gave $25, could I give the other $25, or $10. I told him I give a lot to different charities, but I just can’t do it. I was sorry I answered the door, and also felt guilty about not giving any money. Would you give money to someone you didn’t know?

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@Jordan2  Of course not!

I wouldn't even have opened the door!

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NEVER, and I would not even answer the door unless I was expecting someone over. 

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@Jordan2 wrote:

Yesterday my doorbell rings, it was about 5:00 pm. It was dark, I couldn’t see that well, I thought it might be a delivery, so I opened the door. It was a man and his teenage son going through a whole spiel about raising money for college. He wanted a $50 donation, which is a lot of money to give someone I have never seen. I said I couldn’t afford it. He then said my neighbor gave $25, could I give the other $25, or $10. I told him I give a lot to different charities, but I just can’t do it. I was sorry I answered the door, and also felt guilty about not giving any money. Would you give money to someone you didn’t know?


Whether you are married or not I would've said, my husband says no (he's standing behind the door in case they're wondering) and then shut the door because you never know who they are could be legit but maybe dangerous.  

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I might give a dollar or two if I was in a good mood. But with a speech like that, I wouldn't give anything. The man probably wasn't his father but some scam artist who recruited him. You have nothing to apologize for. I don't open my door after dark. I also have a security door in addition to my regular door.

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I'd call the local police......

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I would never open the door to someone I was not expecting. 

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@Jordan2 wrote:

Yesterday my doorbell rings, it was about 5:00 pm. It was dark, I couldn’t see that well, I thought it might be a delivery, so I opened the door. It was a man and his teenage son going through a whole spiel about raising money for college. He wanted a $50 donation, which is a lot of money to give someone I have never seen. I said I couldn’t afford it. He then said my neighbor gave $25, could I give the other $25, or $10. I told him I give a lot to different charities, but I just can’t do it. I was sorry I answered the door, and also felt guilty about not giving any money. Would you give money to someone you didn’t know?


@Jordan2  Why on earth would you feel guilty?

 

Ask your neighbor if they really gave $25.   Who leaves their door open to strangers while getting her purse, counting out the $ and handing it over?

 

And don't you have a light to flip on at your door?

 

You are lucky nothing came of this.  Seriously.

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have i given money to people i dont know? YES

 

would i answer the door to total strangers when it is dark outside? NO

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We open our door in good faith, not thinking.  You were totally right in listening to your inner voice.  Don't ever regret that.  You wouldn't haver had a hesitation if you felt safe and you felt they were trustworthy.Smiley Happy