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LilacTree
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Registered: ‎03-25-2012

Guilt trips

‎11-07-2014 03:34 PM

How do you handle it when someone tries to put a guilt trip on you? Get really angry? Argue your point? OR walk away and ignore it?

Formerly Ford1224
We must always take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented. Elie Wiesel 1986
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Preds
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Re: Guilt trips

‎11-07-2014 03:41 PM

Now, I just walk away. They don't have that kind of control over me. Took me a while to figure it out, but I'm sure glad I did.

Fate whispers to her, "You cannot withstand the storm." She whispers back, "I am the storm."
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deepwaterdotter
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Re: Guilt trips

‎11-07-2014 03:44 PM

On 11/7/2014 Preds said:

Now, I just walk away. They don't have that kind of control over me. Took me a while to figure it out, but I'm sure glad I did.

Me too, and I agree!

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brii
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Re: Guilt trips

‎11-07-2014 03:49 PM

Nobody can make me feel guilty. I just walk away.
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chickenbutt
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Re: Guilt trips

‎11-07-2014 03:50 PM

I agree with 'walk away'.

One of my mantras is - 'you cannot reason with the unreasonable.' It's just not worth the time, effort, or headspace, IMO.

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HisElk
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Re: Guilt trips

‎11-07-2014 03:54 PM

Hi Ford! The "old" me would have tried to argue it; but I find as I age, I agree with the others - walk away. It takes "two" to argue. Without that, there is no argument. I've had my fair share of that for the 21 years when I was married to my ex.

Like chickenbutt said, "you cannot reason with the unreasonable". JMO.

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dooBdoo
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Re: Guilt trips

‎11-07-2014 03:59 PM

I believe in confronting an issue directly. So, if I perceive an attempt to lay a guilt trip on me I'll talk directly with the person. Not with the illusion that I can change someone, just with the goal of being sure there's no misunderstanding.

Then, if it's really a ticket to a guilt trip I hand the ticket right back to them and let them take the ride. In other words, I do walk away.

It's their problem, not mine.{#emotions_dlg.biggrin}

Few things reveal your intellect and your generosity of spirit—the parallel powers of your heart and mind—better than how you give feedback.~Maria Popova
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LilacTree
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Re: Guilt trips

‎11-07-2014 04:01 PM

I have to say the last time I was faced with this, I did walk away and have stayed away. But that was because what I had been accused of was ridiculous.

If it's something I feel I actually did, I have a harder time to not defend myself. I am just being honest here.

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We must always take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented. Elie Wiesel 1986
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Sushismom
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Re: Guilt trips

‎11-07-2014 04:01 PM

Well, I'm one of those whom some would call passive-aggressive. I'll listen, nod my head, then go off and do what I want to do. Unless that person has an actual grievance, I ignore the attempt at guilt.

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AnikaBrodie
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Re: Guilt trips

‎11-07-2014 04:03 PM

Walk away. ""These boots are made for walking"" (Nancy Sinatra song)!!!

"Faith, Hope, Love; the greatest of these is Love." ~The Silver Fox~
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