Guests Cooking in Your House - Page 8

wagirl · ‎03-09-2010

Oh no---not where I live now--my whole kitchen is 7 x 8 !!! Me and the cat make that space crowded!! I wouldn't know what to do or say about your dilema--

Natureluvr · ‎06-14-2018

@Biftu - yea, that’s such an imposition! I probably wouldn’t say anything either. I’m a people pleaser and have been working on becoming more assertive my whole life. 😏

Sooner · ‎03-10-2010

Just say: You can't bring food this year. There will be no cooking here, you'll have to enjoy that at your house.

Dear Spouse and I are both avoiding certain foods (you don't have to say YOUR food!) and trying to see what we want to eat and not eat, so we will be eating out, or bringing in deliveries this year. There will be no cooking here or eating here at all. Just don't bring any food please.

We appreciate what you have done for all of us in the past but we're doing something different that year, and it isn't negotiable.

You could say the stove isn't working (won't be if you unplug it). Microwave has had issues too (Microwave doesn't like your cooking? )

ScrapHappy · ‎03-28-2010

My BIL and his girlfriend visits us every summer for a week. He's a big foodie. Likes to eat and likes to cook. While they're here, they mostly do their own thing. Day trips and go out and eat a lot. Actually going out to eat is a big thing on my husband's side of the family. They LOVE going out to eat. Last year my BIL bought a crockpot full of sausage, peppers and onions (which he smoked the peppers at his home on his smoker) and a whole bunch of smoked ribs too. He heated/cooked everything up too. We all clean up and do the dishes together. While my BIL is here, my fridge is packed. He buys what he likes and what it's on hand when he makes his meals. He likes food shopping too. I don't mind. It's just a week. His food is a bit more on the spicier side, but that's okay. If it was awful consistently, I'm sure my husband would tell his brother.

haddon9 · ‎03-09-2010

@Biftu I understand about not wanting to hurt feelings. As I mentioned earlier, I would be annoyed too but at this point it seems that it's the plan and would be too awkward to change now.

If it were me I can imagine myself watching both his & his wife's expressions to see if they are open to changes for the next time.

Even if they aren't you'll have to think of something before plans are finalized for the next visit and let them know far in advance.

I hope you enjoy their visit and please let us know how it all goes.

smoochy · ‎03-10-2010

no lies. Just a simple "I prefer that you don't bring any premade meals this time. I'm going to be doing the cooking and I'm sure you wouldn't want to spoil my fun" This is moot since you've already decided to let him do his thing again.

MICHIGAN STATE MOM

ahoymate · ‎05-30-2010

@Sooner wrote:
Just say: You can't bring food this year. There will be no cooking here, you'll have to enjoy that at your house.

Dear Spouse and I are both avoiding certain foods (you don't have to say YOUR food!) and trying to see what we want to eat and not eat, so we will be eating out, or bringing in deliveries this year. There will be no cooking here or eating here at all. Just don't bring any food please.

We appreciate what you have done for all of us in the past but we're doing something different that year, and it isn't negotiable.

You could say the stove isn't working (won't be if you unplug it). Microwave has had issues too (Microwave doesn't like your cooking? )

This is so transparent what you are trying to say/do, and of course dishonest with a friend.

I like Haddon9's response.

smoochy · ‎03-10-2010

@ahoymate wrote:
@Sooner wrote:
Just say: You can't bring food this year. There will be no cooking here, you'll have to enjoy that at your house.

Dear Spouse and I are both avoiding certain foods (you don't have to say YOUR food!) and trying to see what we want to eat and not eat, so we will be eating out, or bringing in deliveries this year. There will be no cooking here or eating here at all. Just don't bring any food please.

We appreciate what you have done for all of us in the past but we're doing something different that year, and it isn't negotiable.

You could say the stove isn't working (won't be if you unplug it). Microwave has had issues too (Microwave doesn't like your cooking? )
This is so transparent what you are trying to say/do, and of course dishonest with a friend.

I like Haddon9's response.

her response was basically, too late now and look for signs on the faces whether they would be open to future changes. I don't agree. It's the OPs house! Why on earth would she need signs of approval to do ANYTHING in her own home?! And no. It's not too late to make the necessary change for this upcoming visit. If she wanted to which she has stated she doesn't.

MICHIGAN STATE MOM

ahoymate · ‎05-30-2010

@smoochy wrote:
@ahoymate wrote:
@Sooner wrote:
Just say: You can't bring food this year. There will be no cooking here, you'll have to enjoy that at your house.

Dear Spouse and I are both avoiding certain foods (you don't have to say YOUR food!) and trying to see what we want to eat and not eat, so we will be eating out, or bringing in deliveries this year. There will be no cooking here or eating here at all. Just don't bring any food please.

We appreciate what you have done for all of us in the past but we're doing something different that year, and it isn't negotiable.

You could say the stove isn't working (won't be if you unplug it). Microwave has had issues too (Microwave doesn't like your cooking? )
This is so transparent what you are trying to say/do, and of course dishonest with a friend.

I like Haddon9's response.
her response was basically, too late now and look for signs on the faces whether they would be open to future changes. I don't agree. It's the OPs house! Why on earth would she need signs of approval to do ANYTHING in her own home?! And no. It's not too late to make the necessary change for this upcoming visit. If she wanted to which she has stated she doesn't.

It was stated to make the suggestion before the next 3 year visit. Too late now. These are friends, not some homeless person.

smoochy · ‎03-10-2010

@wagirl wrote:
Oh no---not where I live now--my whole kitchen is 7 x 8 !!! Me and the cat make that space crowded!! I wouldn't know what to do or say about your dilema--

same here, I have a galley kitchen. Room for one cook only. Stanley Cup, my tuxedo cat, gets in the way plenty especially during prep work 🙄😬

MICHIGAN STATE MOM