Community Chat

[LilacTree]

Jules, I just noticed your post, I haven't been on the BB much this past week.

Please accept my sincere condolences on the loss of your beloved father. Once one loses both parents and becomes an "orphan," so to speak, life changes and you become the older generation, no matter your age. I am happy that you find solace in your faith, and my wish is that you weather this transition well. I do not remember if you have siblings or not, but if not, I hope you have someone close to you who can hold your hand through this difficult time.

You will always keep him (them) in your heart forever . . . that never ends.

[birddrops]

Apology to Jules and dboodoo, I am sorry, I should have checked the posts before posting the Mary Elizabeth Frye poem. I see now that dboodoo had already posted it.

[Stargazer77]

Dear Jules, I don't think I've ever posted with you before (the beauty board is my "home"), but I just wanted to say I'm so sorry about the loss of your dad.

I read something the other day in the comments section of my local paper online, a woman was talking about how her best friend had died when they were 19 (I think the woman is about 50 now) and how she thought of her every day. And one day some years ago a person told her, "grief is the price we pay for love." The woman said she found comfort in those words, I hope you will too. Sending you hugs.

[NoelSeven]

Hi Jules,

My latest post to you disappeared, so I'll try again and hope it won't be redundant

I'm glad you and the puppy were able to have a nice walk and visit the nursing facility. I know the others there were glad to see you.

I hope you are able to have time today to rest and enjoy at least some small part of Easter.

N.

[JustJules]

On 4/20/2014 birddrops said:

Apology to Jules and dboodoo, I am sorry, I should have checked the posts before posting the Mary Elizabeth Frye poem. I see now that dboodoo had already posted it.

birddrops, There is no need to apologize for posting that poem again. It is beautiful...very profound words, and the reminder is always comfort in times of mourning. I appreciate your kind thoughts and consideration to even post it for me.

[Yuban3]

birddrops - that is a beautiful poem.

I had that poem printed on my mom's memorial handout when she passed.

[Yuban3]

Jules - I'm so sorry for your loss.

There is a song by Crystal Shawanda called "You Can Let Go Now Daddy".

Everytime I hear it, especially the last lines, I'm left bawling.

I don't know if you want to read the lyrics or not, so I'm not going to print them here, but you can look them up if you want.

[JustJules]

On 4/20/2014 NoelSeven said:

Hi Jules,

My latest post to you disappeared, so I'll try again and hope it won't be redundant

I'm glad you and the puppy were able to have a nice walk and visit the nursing facility. I know the others there were glad to see you.

I hope you are able to have time today to rest and enjoy at least some small part of Easter.

N.

Hi dear Noel,

I think the residents at the nursing facility are happy to see me (certainly more than the staff....haha) because many don't often get visitors. I was there every day to spend time with my dad, often several times a day, with the exception of one day when I was feeling sick and just stayed home. I have grown fond of so many of them, sometimes we play cards together, sometimes just sit and talk, sometimes I just go get them something to drink and get a hug....but they are all such interesting people with their own stories to tell. They were all aware as soon as my dad passed, that news spreads around, and the ones that had spent time with me all made a point to come tell me words of condolence and care. Old peeps are cool like that!

My day has been good. I was sort of not looking forward to it, even before my dad died, I knew I would not be cooking any Easter supper for him, and then since Friday I thought I might just be in a puddle on the floor. I think my dad is for sure watching out for me because he gave me the strength to go to Easter service, and while I am not a regular church-goer, it was just what I needed today. As I mentioned, I took a lady resident with me, and the sermon today was "Is That Your Final Answer?" I consider myself Protestant in faith and this is a Presbyterian church that my parents often attended, and I had gone a few times with my dad. The Pastor there now is a woman, and she delivered a divine message, at least to me. She used some modern references, but it was mostly about how when horrible things happen in our lives, like the every day tragedies, and we post about them daily here.... we question God as to why? Like... is this all there is? Is this your final answer to us? Yet there is always hope. She talked about death on Good Friday, and of course that is when I started to cry.... but the message was that even though bad things will happen, we are not alone. I think it was exactly what I needed to hear today.

It is a little overcast now, and we are supposed to get some rain showers possibly, but I think rain is cleansing.... so I plan on taking the puppy for a walk in the park, and then I will relax. I will start to deal with all the "stuff" waiting for me tomorrow. Some asked, and I am sleeping and eating a little, often at odd hours.... far from my normal routine, but I suppose that will take some time to recover.

I am sort of surprised at my response to all of this, and I'm sure some of it is shock, and it will hurt more as it sinks in, but I thought I would be in a pool of tears curled up on the floor. That might still happen, and I guess that is okay too.... as long as I get myself back up and keep going.

I appreciate all the kind words of support from you ladies. This truly is the worst thing that has happened to me, and I have had some bad things happen.... but I know my daddy would want me to stay strong.

[Lavinia_1]

Condolences, puppy will be a blessing more than ever.

[croemer]

Blessings to you today Jules...just thinking about cha.