Community Chat

[brii]

I'm so sorry for your loss. It's just not easy...

[marmot24]

So sorry Jules. We were all hoping for a better outcome. Take comfort in knowing you were able to comfort your sweet Dad at the end. I wish I'd been there with mine. Hugs to you & puppy. Marmot

[Free2be]

Knowing the day would come makes it not a whit easier. I and many posters here grieve with you. There's something about certain father/daughter bonds that are like stone, unbreakable forever. Give yourself a hug, Jules, your father now has no discomfort and you did everything right and good.

[qualitygal]

Sorry Jules, it's not easy. Take care.

[Lila Belle]

I am so sorry for your loss.

I hope you find strength and comfort in the days ahead.

[ilovedaisies]

Very sorry for your loss.

[RedTop]

My deepest sympathy to you in the loss of someone so special. May God bless your heart and soul with comfort and peace, and may wonderful memories guide you through the days ahead.

[Pqfan]

I am so sorry Jules.

My deepest condolences and prayers go out to you.

I don't even know what to say but I just wanted you to know that I cared.

[JustJules]

Thank you all soooo very much for your kind words and condolences, they do provide comfort. I realize many don't even "know" me, and even those that do, it is a virtual friendship, but behind every name there is a person with feelings and a life of joy and pain, and so it matters when someone takes the time to express compassion. I appreciate all of it. I managed to get some sleep, and the sun came up, and it is a new day. I feel a bit lost because I would normally go visit my dad, and that has been the pattern for weeks... so now it is just odd. The nursing facility is having an Easter party this afternoon, and I was invited... I probably should attend because I have grown fond of so many of the residents there, and they were so caring towards me. It will seem strange to walk back in there without the purpose of visiting my dad. I guess it is one step at a time.

[kdgn]

Jules, take it from me: Today is the start of your "new normal". The role of caretaker isn't quite over yet, there are still details to be worked out, papers to be filed, all the "things" that close out a life. Take your time with some of it, put it off if you don't feel like dealing with what can obviously wait. I just finished shredding paperwork and Mom's been gone for well over a year.

Go back to the NH even though the first visit will be difficult. It will mean something to the staff, someone views them as more than employees doing a difficult job. Take a deep breath as you enter the building and try not to allow sadness to overwhelm you.