Re: Getting Rid Of Stuff After A Death

CrazyKittyLvr2 · ‎05-11-2013

My BIL and oldest niece will each call me about this. DD and I were there after the 1st of the year. The oldest lives 4 hours, one way, from her Dad, was visiting and they were trying to clear out stuff. Youngest kept taking things out the the pile my BIL wanted to get rid of. Old magazines sis saved, newspaper clippings from 40/50 years ago of people we had no idea who they were.

My BIL's health is not good. He called and said the youngest had 2 boxes of stuff she wanted 2 weeks ago.........they are on his front porch. She wants them but not enough to take them with her.

She is a pack rat like her Mom.

MarcyG72 · ‎08-20-2012

My mother and I were talking about this subject today! She said to me "your brother and you will have to rent a dumpster when your father and me die." They have boxes in their attic of clothes I wore in grade school! My comment to her was why would you leave all of this for us to do?

I have already had this 'duty' for two other family members, and am almost 70 with health issues myself. My house is non-cluttered...everything in boxes and labeled. Why would any parent do this to their not-so-young children?

Lucky Charm · ‎03-09-2010

@CrazyKittyLvr2 wrote:
@Lucky Charm I didn't have to let her hear, her own sister said it, and she was.

She loved yard sales. She would take a bowl, embroidered hankie ot whatever junk she bought, out of a bag, show me and you never saw it again. It stayed in the bag in a cabinet, closet or corner.

Pack rat.

Ouch.

Okay. You're telling us your deceased sister was a pack rat.

You've posted many things here about your sister over the years.

Hope it helps you.

ETA: Now I guess it will be about your niece?

YouGoGirl1 · ‎08-31-2015

Over in Sweden, They have what is called Swedish Death Cleaning.That Is cleaning out and decluttering your home before you die. Helps your family with the burden of cleaning out later. Very interesting read...

RedTop · ‎09-01-2010

@CrazyKittyLvr2

Back in the 60's when church rummage sales were the big thing here, my grandmother always walked out with far more than she donated.

She would buy colorful dresses and mens shirts and ties, to take apart and cut up for quilt pieces. Sadly, most of what she bought never made it into a quilt top. The bags were stashed all thru the house, and she soon forgot about the special buys she just couldn't pass up.

We could've filled a dump truck with what we cleared from the mobile home she was in when she broke her hip. Just as much was left inside her structurally unsafe house, and went up in flames during the fire departments controlled burn.

QVCkitty1 · ‎05-23-2015

@Lucky Charm wrote:
@CrazyKittyLvr2 wrote:
@Lucky Charm I didn't have to let her hear, her own sister said it, and she was.

She loved yard sales. She would take a bowl, embroidered hankie ot whatever junk she bought, out of a bag, show me and you never saw it again. It stayed in the bag in a cabinet, closet or corner.

Pack rat.
Ouch.

Okay. You're telling us your deceased sister was a pack rat.

You've posted many things here about your sister over the years.

Hope it helps you.

ETA: Now I guess it will be about your niece?

@Lucky Charm , That's kind of mean. The OP knows her family, we do not.

" You are entitled to your opinion. But you are not entitled to your own facts."
Daniel Patrick Moynihan

CrazyKittyLvr2 · ‎05-11-2013

I have 2 pictures that my sister painted for my DH and I years ago. I love both of them. I also have a ton of pictures from our childhood on.

Oh, I forgot. The youngest took a picture of my sister in the hospital a few days before she died. Sister was unconscious, on a ventilator and buttercup yellow from liver failure.

She asked if I wanted her to send it to my phone. WTH, no.

Her sister almost threw her out the 5th floor of the hospital. She is under orders not to show her Dad. My sister would have, oh my God, she would have had an absolute fit.

I don't need a picture to remember what my sister looked like when she died.

Lucky Charm · ‎03-09-2010

@QVCkitty1 wrote:
@Lucky Charm wrote:
@CrazyKittyLvr2 wrote:
@Lucky Charm I didn't have to let her hear, her own sister said it, and she was.

She loved yard sales. She would take a bowl, embroidered hankie ot whatever junk she bought, out of a bag, show me and you never saw it again. It stayed in the bag in a cabinet, closet or corner.

Pack rat.
Ouch.

Okay. You're telling us your deceased sister was a pack rat.

You've posted many things here about your sister over the years.

Hope it helps you.

ETA: Now I guess it will be about your niece?
@Lucky Charm , That's kind of mean. The OP knows her family, we do not.

Honestly I think it's very mean spirited for OP to post this about her sister's belongings and now her niece.

She has told so many stories over the years about her sister.

ETA: @QVCkitty1

Do we really need to know she was 'buttercup' yellow on her deathbed?

In the past it was stories of how her sister didn't take care of herself.

How she dictated how a holiday meal should be cooked.

Just lots of not so nice things to say about someone. Only one side.

Now it seems to be the niece.

QVCkitty1 · ‎05-23-2015

@Lucky Charm wrote:
@QVCkitty1 wrote:
@Lucky Charm wrote:
@CrazyKittyLvr2 wrote:
@Lucky Charm I didn't have to let her hear, her own sister said it, and she was.

She loved yard sales. She would take a bowl, embroidered hankie ot whatever junk she bought, out of a bag, show me and you never saw it again. It stayed in the bag in a cabinet, closet or corner.

Pack rat.
Ouch.

Okay. You're telling us your deceased sister was a pack rat.

You've posted many things here about your sister over the years.

Hope it helps you.

ETA: Now I guess it will be about your niece?
@Lucky Charm , That's kind of mean. The OP knows her family, we do not.
Honestly I think it's very mean spirited for OP to post this about her sister's belongings and now her niece.

She has told so many stories over the years about her sister.

ETA:  @QVCkitty1

Do we really need to know she was 'buttercup' yellow on her deathbed?

In the past it was stories of how her sister didn't take care of herself.

How she dictated how a holiday meal should be cooked.

Just lots of not so nice things to say about someone. Only one side.

Now it seems to be the niece.