Re: Get Your Ducks in a Row

Imaoldhippie · ‎06-10-2015

@Jk9 ..............I have been experiencing this for over 15 months now. What a major pain, complicated and expensive.

LIFE IS TO SHORT TOO FOLD FITTED SHEETS

Jk9 · ‎07-18-2013

I provide my clients with memorandums to write out their funeral and burial instructions, a document locator page to list where their important documents are kept and give a letter reinforcing the need to review their end of life documents for updates and changes. Getting information off the internet is a real problem for folks too.

If my dog doesn't like you, neither do I.

Sooner · ‎03-10-2010

See a lawyer too because you can lose a huge amount of what you have worked for and your retirement paying for relatives nursing home care unless they have gotten proper legal advice well in advance.

Don't think it can't happen to you either. What your relatives think will take care of it may not.

drizzellla · ‎03-14-2010

@qualitygal wrote:
Totally agree. GET your power of attorney's done too. That way, what you really want, can be carried out. It makes it so much easier on those left behind, who will tend to things for you, when you can't.

To clarify too, when you pass away, the power of attorney is no longer any good. So get your will done!

I am glad you also mentioned that Power of Attorney ends at death. My parents died within 5 days of one another. I had been given Power of Attorney but it didn't help once they died. I was unable to access their lock box at the bank so that I could get to their wills. I could not probate their wills.

geezerette · ‎03-16-2010

@drizzellla wrote:
@qualitygal wrote:
Totally agree. GET your power of attorney's done too. That way, what you really want, can be carried out. It makes it so much easier on those left behind, who will tend to things for you, when you can't.

To clarify too, when you pass away, the power of attorney is no longer any good. So get your will done!

I am glad you also mentioned that Power of Attorney ends at death. My parents died within 5 days of one another. I had been given Power of Attorney but it didn't help once they died. I was unable to access their lock box at the bank so that I could get to their wills. I could not probate their wills.

That's one thing that has always stuck with me--don't put the important documents your executor will need in your lock box! Unless they also have access, of course.

Also, many times they will need the original documents, not copies.

pieman · ‎11-21-2013

I think these laws are deplorable in such times of saddness.

Especially ones concerning Living Wills..

My mom and dad both had their Wills done in Ct.

My dad passed om Christmas 9 years ago and back there the laws were laxed, not so picky as other states.

Well my mom passed 2 years ago here in Florida, when her time hours were nearing to end the hospital asked if she had a living will,,

My dear husband ran home to get it and when he got back and gave it to the administrator we were told that wasn't recognized in Florida so a new one had to be written up.

Really?? My mom couldn't speak, she didn't even know where she was at this point,,,] So I had to make the hardest decision ever that day, to end my moms life.

Its truw there wasb't anything more they said they could do, but then again, this is Florida, "Gods Waiting Room" so not much effort goes into saving the elderly.

I will have to live with the decision I made for the rest of my life, unfortunately.

I think the Senate should create a new law , once you have a Will drawn up, thats it, good for where you live! Watching your loved ones pass is hard, but having to make that decision is even worse. To the OP, I am so very sorry for your loss............................

Still Raining · ‎03-30-2014

In addition to all the good points below, think like who ever is left holding the bag.

If you dropped dead this second - passwords, bank accounts, investments, important papers....it's a long list. Mine is on a flash drive.

drizzellla · ‎03-14-2010

@pieman wrote:
I think these laws are deplorable in such times of saddness.
Especially ones concerning Living Wills..
My mom and dad both had their Wills done in Ct.
My dad passed om Christmas 9 years ago and back there the laws were laxed, not so picky as other states.
Well my mom passed 2 years ago here in Florida, when her time hours were nearing to end the hospital asked if she had a living will,,
My dear husband ran home to get it and when he got back and gave it to the administrator we were told that wasn't recognized in Florida so a new one had to be written up.
Really?? My mom couldn't speak, she didn't even know where she was at this point,,,] So I had to make the hardest decision ever that day, to end my moms life.
Its truw there wasb't anything more they said they could do, but then again, this is Florida, "Gods Waiting Room" so not much effort goes into saving the elderly.
I will have to live with the decision I made for the rest of my life, unfortunately.
I think the Senate should create a new law , once you have a Will drawn up, thats it, good for where you live! Watching your loved ones pass is hard, but having to make that decision is even worse. To the OP, I am so very sorry for your loss............................

Both my parents had their Living Wills drawn up. And both were in and out of hospitals their last few months.

The Living Wills were drawn up in Pennsylvanis and every hospital they were in, was in Pennsylvania. The Living Wills were also drawn up about 4 years before they were in and out of the hospitals.

No matter what hospital they were in - no hospital would accept their Living Wills. Each hospital said they were too old and we had to have new Living Wills drawn up. Neither parent was in any shape to have legal matters being drawn up. The Doctors did whatever they wanted and would not follow my parents request..

homedecor1 · ‎03-09-2010

@wismiss

So sorry for your loss.

Very good advice...seems that getting those important documents "in order" aren't always one's priority.

Two years ago when my spouse became ill (still is) our kids drove us crazy with reminders. Needless to say, we "thought" our wills, etc. were "in order" as nothing changed.

Oh sooooo wrong just this week we finalized everything -- our wills, etc were written in NJ and would have been a real problem.

Everything was updated for FL (some crazy rules here) but we are glad the kids bugged us. Now, my spouse can rest easily knowing all our ducks are swimming the RIGHT way😉🙂