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[Blooming Hyacinth]

Over the past year or so, I have become friends with a couple who live quite close to me. They have two toddler children. We share many interests and in nicer weather, go out at least once a week for coffee and shopping. We are joined by a relative who also lives in the neighborhood. The adults also share another group activity with some other individuals which we find immensely entertaining and enjoyable.

My problem is with the couple. They have recently done something which I find morally objectionable. I feel they have taken advantage of the holiday season and pretty much duped many lovely, generous people. I suspect the problem started innocently enough and then exploded. When they were made aware of the situation, they did nothing to stop it until his work stepped in and said that it had to stop immediately. The situation is complicated further by the man in the couple working for the same company as my relative.

Should I say something to them about the way I feel? Quite frankly, if they were to participate in something like this again, I think I would end the friendship. I definitely enjoy the times we have spent together thus far, but feel guilty by association.

Sorry, I can't give more detail of the actual event, but if the employers would get wind of this (and any other details I give would be leave no doubt as to who the couple is to anybody who might read these boards and know them) and the man would lose his job.

Thanks for any help you can give me.