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[Mom2twocuties]

As I've gotten older and from life circumstances I have found out that this saying and thought is the only way to go! Sometimes it's VERY hard! But when you do have the mind set it is somewhat freeing( helps with anxiety, as per my thread from the other day). Here's to a blessed DAY.

[brii]

It's important to be mindful and positive every day.

[JustJules]

Always a good reminder. When some people lead such busy lives it's easy to forget and become overwhelmed by things that, in the big scheme, perhaps don't matter so much. It's important to have plans and goals for the future in order to stay focused on having the best life possible, but I think the key is keeping things in a proper perspective.

[dooBdoo]

mom2twocuties, I remember a year or so ago when you wrote so poignantly about missing your mom over the holidays. You have a good heart and a sweet spirit. Thanks for this reminder to us all. Sometimes I find I need to take one hour at a time, even a minute at a time. I often recommend a very practical, down-to-earth Dale Carnegie book (How to Stop Worrying and Start Living) because along with the Carnegie classes it was so helpful to me.

One of the book's principles is:
"Live in 'day-tight compartments.' Don't stew about the futures. Just live each day until bedtime."

It really does help.

[AnikaBrodie]

[Mom2twocuties]

dooBdoo. Yes that was me, and since then my father has passed away and my sister was diagnosed with cancer. ( you can see where this is all coming from). Thank for your kind words. Yes, that book- my husband has read it and I actually did start to read it. It's been awhile.

[dooBdoo]

On 3/18/2015 mom2twocuties said: dooBdoo. Yes that was me, and since then my father has passed away and my sister was diagnosed with cancer. ( you can see where this is all coming from). Thank for your kind words. Yes, that book- my husband has read it and I actually did start to read it. It's been awhile.

Oh, sweetie, I didn't know about your father and sister. Yes, I do see where it's coming from. A very tender place. That particular book, and the classes, came at a time in my life when I really needed strength and needed practical steps to find some semblance of hope and progress out of darkness. Carnegie was a man of faith and also had so much wisdom, and I think that's why his classes and books have survived the test of time. I find myself re-reading that book, and few others, because for me it's a good reminder.

I do wish you well. Take good care of yourself.

[hckynut]

I learned many decades ago that I cannot change the past nor predict the future. However, what I can do is live in the moment and make that time as good or as bad as I choose, regardless of the circumstances.

Much to the dismay of my late mother, my favorite saying since I was a teen was/is:

"Man was born to live, not to prepare for life".

and that is the way I lived and live my life.

[qvcaddition]

This thread has helped me this morning, because I am in a very sorrowful place and can,t do anything about it, so need to live for today. Thank you.

[Still Raining]

This is indeed a lifeline sometimes. Here is the expanded version from Al Anon. It helps me to have more detailed instructions.

Just for today, I will try to live through this day only,
and not tackle my whole life problem
at once. I can do something for twelve hours
that would appall me if I felt that I had to
keep it up for a lifetime.

Just for today, I will be happy. This assumes to
be true what Abraham Lincoln said, that
"most folks are as happy as they make up
their minds to be."

Just for today, I will try to strengthen my mind.
I will study. I will learn something useful.
I will not be a mental loafer. I will read
something that requires effort, thought and
concentration.

Just for today, I will adjust myself to what is,
and not try to adjust everything to my own
desires. I will take my "luck" as it comes,
and fit myself to it.

Just for today, I will exercise my soul in three
ways: I will do somebody a good turn, and
not get found out. I will do at least two
things I don't want to--just for exercise.
I will not show anyone that my feelings are
hurt; they may be hurt, but today I will not
show it

Just for today, I will be agreeable. I will look
as well as I can, dress becomingly, talk low,
act courteously, criticize not one bit, not
find fault with anything and not try to improve
or regulate anybody except myself.

Just for today, I will have a program. I may not
follow it exactly, but I will have it. I will
save myself from two pests: hurry and indecision.

Just for today, I will have a quiet half hour all
by myself, and relax. During this half hour,
sometime, I will try to get a better perspective
of my life.

Just for today, I will be unafraid. Especially I
will not be afraid to enjoy what is beautiful,
and to believe that as I give to the world, so
the world will give to me.

-Kenneth L. Holmes