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[Julie from NY]

Has anybody done this and felt guilty? I am married for 8 yrs with 2 young boys. I've always been 100% faithful and rarely see girlfriends. My husband is old fashioned and straight from work, he wants me home taking care of our kids. I want to go out to dinner with girlfriends and he says it's inappropriate and I should be home with the kids but it's ok for him to meet his friends at a bar to watch a game, because he's a guy. Anyway, over the last couple of months, there's an extremely handsome, older man at work, also married but with no kids who's been flirting with me alot and I enjoy the attention. He's asked me to lunch but I declined saying it's not appropriate. There's been no physical contact, just flirting. I'm enjoying the attention but feel guilty ever though i've done nothing. It's really boosted my self confidence. I'm getting in fantastic shape and lost weight without really trying. I'm not sure if it's due to nerves/excitement or what.

Is innocent flirting wrong if you're married? I haven't told my mom or sisters whom i'm extremely close with so I need some opinions.