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[NativeJax]

The past few months have extremely stressful for me, I have a great job but a lot of pressure. I am an assistant director and I have a small team I manage. Anyway, we found out in February they are going to be moving my department to Phoenix and will be letting 3 people go on our staff and they still haven't told us who they are keeping. I do not think they will keep me even though I am a top producer because they don't need two directors. The last three weeks the executive team who is normally warm and friendly with me has been distant and unapproachable. The CEO is making an unexpected visit next week and I think they will let us go. On top of that, my father is terminal and I was told today that my adult son needs psychiatric evaluation as the doctor feels as though there is something wrong with his stability. My blood pressure is through the roof and I feel so out of control. I took some vacation days and registered for an insurance class starting on Friday as I am trying to prepare for a backup plan but I think I should have started sooner. I have no control over these things and it brought me to tears today. I am so worried about my son and now the possability of no insurance on top of that....very overwhelmed at the moment. I just really need some help with my feelings at the moment. Such an incredibly sad day for me....

[Lila Belle]

[Julie928]

I'm so sorry you are going through all of this.  My words may be of little comfort, but I've learned that every difficult experience opens up the door for a wonderful opportunity that brings us to where we need to be in life.  Take care of yourself and try not to worry ~ we are never given more than we can handle...  :-) 

[beach-mom]

@NativeJax - What @Julie928 said is so perfect. I am a person of faith, so I will say a prayer for you. I too believe the sadness and challenges we have in life make us stronger and change our lives in ways we would never have imagined. It doesn't look like it at the time we're going through it, but if we don't have hope things will improve it can impact our health. Take care of you. I will also pray for your father and for your son. 

[Noel7]

@NativeJax

I'm so sorry you have so much on your plate.  Do you have a support group you can fall back on?  Friends, extended family? A church group?

I'm wondering if your son lives with you or has his own place.  You must be so worried about him.I hope you visit you doctor as soon as possible to check on your blood pressure and get medication if you need help with it.

I wish you all the best.

[ILTH]

I know it's very raw for you right now and you feel as if you've been punched in the gut and had the wind taken out of you, but, you will be okay. 

You will have severance and/or unemployment for awhile. 

Also, this may afford you needed time to deal with your family problems. 

You WILL find work. You WILL get health insurance. 

Try to stop playing the doom over and over in your head.  Stop panicking. Breathe. 

Stop worrying about what you can't control.  I know is easy to say,  but,  I've been there. ..many times.  It WILL work out.  Keep up with your backup plan. It's not too late. 

"I contend that we are both atheists . I just believe in one fewer god than you do. When you understand why you dismiss all the other possible gods, you will understand why I dismiss yours."  Stephen Henry Roberts

[Mustang Shar]

I'm so sorry you are going through this crisis. It feels better to get it out here and just breathe. I will also pray for you. 

[Princesswife]

I am so sorry for you situation. But if you are one of the lay offs go and get your son state insurance they might give it to you Saab because of is condition. Although if you been at your job for awhile they might offer a severance package which might include your health insurance for awhile. At this trying time in your life you have to try and relax please take care of you first so you can take care of son and dad best of luck

[NativeJax]

I have been trying to cope with my son for a long time and really thought he would out grow some behaviors but the reality is that it is getting worse and I realize that he needs help so badly. He has not been capable of holding a job or doing simple tasks, I was hopeful but he definitely needs help. I pray God helps us find a doctor to help him, I just can't stop crying. I have been a single mother since he was 9 months old and he is about to be 22. I know that mental illness has to be treated but it's just so sad to watch someone who looks healthy on the outside but on the inside he is suffering. It's heartbreaking....thank you for your prayers.

[Sooner]

This may sound stupid and simple minded, but keep in contact with your fellow workers because the grapevine is a great resource for finding another job.  Put the word out with friends and relatives that you may be looking for a job.

Love your father and soak up the time you have with him.  At the same time, release the outcome, which you cannot change.  

Do some small thing every day if you can that will help you keep up with the things you need to do.  After you do it, sit, have some tea or read a book or do something you enjoy for at least 15 minutes, and count your blessings even though they may seem few sometimes when you are going through this.

Prayers and best wishes to you--I wish I had better advice for you!