Father

QVCkitty1 · ‎05-23-2015

I miss my father, and for most of my relationship with him ,I would not have thought this possible. He was a difficult man and nowadays probably would have some medication to assist him. Truthfully, he probably wouldn't have taken any meds because you see it was everyone else's fault, never his. When my wonderful mom was fighting cancer, my dad became a wonderful caregiver. He changed from a selfish human to a dad I could be proud of. We lost mom after a long battle,but father, who was diagnosed with Alzheimer's was now my responsibility. However, after witnessing his care of my mom, it became easier to deal with him. Lucky for .us both , his heart gave out before I had to put him in a home. So anyway , now instead of resenting him I remember him fondly, and the bad was buried with him. Thank you if you read this and I hope you had a good Father's Day.

" You are entitled to your opinion. But you are not entitled to your own facts."
Daniel Patrick Moynihan

Mom2Dogs · ‎03-09-2010

@QVCkitty1 I enjoyed reading your post about your dad.

Are we sisters from another mother?...your dad sounds like mine. I had a similar experience when my mom had cancer....my dad could not have been better to her.

Mom would said he loved saying he had 5 children, but was never interested in spending time with them....that did change as we got out on our own. He had a tough upbringing, lost his mom at a young age and went into the military, probably to get away.

I always enjoyed his visits when he would come and stay the weekend with me and my husband. He has been gone since 2011.

I am glad I have good memories as well.

cindyNC · ‎08-01-2019

I can identify with much of what you said. My father ran a family business w/his brother and it was very contentious. He dealt with it by drinking heavily until he bought his brother out.

He was a great provider, but could not really talk to us. The funny part is that many of the best conversations I had with him was while my mother was out of the house. If I called while both were home, he just handed the phone to her.

KailaS · ‎03-09-2010

I had the most amazing dad. He enlisted in the Navy and was a factory worker. I was one of two children,the older one. At a time when women were expected to marry and raise children, he supported me although I went to college and wanted to put my energy into my career. My dad took me to baseball games when his buddies took their sons, he was active in church and civic activities until he had a stroke. He died in 2018, a few weeks short of his 72nd wedding anniversary. He was the best.

Lucky Charm · ‎03-09-2010

I'm glad you had a good relationship with your father towards the end. And it's great he was a big help to your mother as she suffered through cancer.

But your comment about how lucky the both of you are that his heart gave out before you had to put him in a home, really struck me.

My dad moved here into assisted living close by me and is thriving. Widowed a little over a year ago, he would have been very lonesome. He lived in a rural area far from any of his 5 children. (100 miles to 400 miles away)

If he had stayed alone, by himself, he'd probaly be gone by now.

He's enjoying the atmosphere, the socialization, the food and his little apartment. He's getting ready to start a little garden on his patio in planters. I'm taking out to buy supplies tomorrow after an appointment.

'Homes' can be very nice, safe enviroments for elderly people. I know my mother would've loved the place if she were still alive.

QVCkitty1 · ‎05-23-2015

@Lucky Charm wrote:
I'm glad you had a good relationship with your father towards the end. And it's great he was a big help to your mother as she suffered through cancer.

But your comment about how lucky the both of you are that his heart gave out before you had to put him in a home, really struck me.

My dad moved here into assisted living close by me and is thriving. Widowed a little over a year ago, he would have been very lonesome. He lived in a rural area far from any of his 5 children. (100 miles to 400 miles away)

If he had stayed alone, by himself, he'd probaly be gone by now.

He's enjoying the atmosphere, the socialization, the food and his little apartment. He's getting ready to start a little garden on his patio in planters. I'm taking out to buy supplies tomorrow after an appointment.

'Homes' can be very nice, safe enviroments for elderly people. I know my mother would've loved the place if she were still alive.

@Lucky Charm , I kept him home as long as I could, his heart giving out was a blessing. Alzheimer's is such a cruel disease, but at least he had his little dog till the end and he knew me, he just forgot everything else.

" You are entitled to your opinion. But you are not entitled to your own facts."
Daniel Patrick Moynihan

MaverDaver · ‎06-28-2013

Growing up as an only child my father was my best friend. On days when the weather did not cooperate he would play board games with me and tell me life stories. He was a veteran of WWII, injured in Italy and spent over a year in a hospital in Pennsylvania, almost losing his leg.

He was a simple man, only having an 8th grade education before having to go to work to support the family. You would never know he was short on education because he read EVERY DAY from current events around the world as well as history books.

He was a man of few words but when he spoke I listened and through his wisdom became the person I am today.

He was 52 when I lost him to cancer. I think of him often and through the years when I crossed paths with those that knew him they would tell me "you are your father's daughter".

I owe the strength within me to him and am grateful everyday because of him.

DrakesMomma · ‎06-02-2010

My Daddy died with lung cancer when I was 12. I can safely say I have missed him every one of the 15,638 days he has been gone.

CalminHeart · ‎03-09-2010

@QVCkitty1 wrote:

My dad was always patient, loving, kind, but was firm when needed. He took care of Mom through a 4 year health battle. Seeing him with Mom and Mom with him made me realize how much more wonderful he was. They were married almost 67 years when she passed.

Dad died Christmas 2023. Mom died Thanksgiving 2017. I was retired so took care of Dad for the last 5 few years. It was a great joy of my life. I miss them both so much.