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@happycat

It sounds like she's miserable and trying to find someone and doesnt care if they are married ....your DH blocked her, and you need to block her to...When she gets no repsonses I think she will try to find someone else that can give her some attention. 

It just amuses me how some so called "adults" like your friend can be so childish and become like Middle School kids....One reason Im not overly fond of FB.  

[Spurt]

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@ALRATIBA wrote:

He doesn't have to unfriend her to stop seeing her posts.   All he has to do is click the little arrow in the upper right hand of her post, and can select "hide all ???'s posts."

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@ALRATIBA

Why hide the posts, so he can take a peek now and again....????????? the DH did the right thing by blocking her ...

[Spurt]

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@OnlyShopsOnline wrote:

I seriously HATE Facebook.  You are really going to regret opening that account!

I opened one, not even 2 years ago.  I reconnected with so many long lost family members and friends.  I thought it was wonderful.  Then I started seeing sides of some of these people that I never dreamed existed.  FB became a source of irritation for me.

I ended up shutting the whole thing down for a few months.  But, I have several out-of-state elderly family members who enjoyed seeing the pictures of the grandkids, and I was missing out on a few things myself.  So, I opened up a new account.  I put all of my security settings in place, just where I wanted them, and have a total of 8 FB friends.  That's it!  And, I warned those people that they will disappear if I see any "nastiness!"

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@OnlyShopsOnline

Your like me I only have 7 friends and these are out of state relatives and 1 sibling and mostly to stay in touch this way and share photos....but am not so fond of FB ....I used to lurk and read friend's FB pages and saw friends get upset with one another over and never spoke again offline because what was said especially those that bought up politics or current issues............I prefer Twitter, I have it set up in lists of topics mostly sports and hobbies that interest me and use it to read news links.  But rarely tweet to others...

[ALRATIBA]

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@Plaid Pants2 wrote:

Contrary to what some might think, not everybody puts their whole life on Facebook, and post everything that they do.

Facebook in and of itself is not the "evil" that some like to think that it is.

ETA: Not everyone acts "childish" on there either.

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@Plaid Pants2

Your're right ... there are so many great FB groups for all sorts of inteerest .... e.g. - political, religious, geneaology/ancestry, high school and college groups,  all eras of history, archaeology, book lovers, musical genres .... you name it - there's a group for it!

[happycat]

I like it for the groups, too. And my dh and myself both have family members who are out of state, and we do enjoy seeing what is going on with them.

Thank you all for your opinions. Its always interesting to get everyone else take on things.

[AngusandBuddhasMom]

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@happycat wrote:

I would like to know what you all think.

I am new to facebook. I had a fake account, that I used for 3 people who live in other areas of the country.

Then, I decided to get a real fb account, real name. Husband got one also, about a week ago.

Now, I have a friend, on fb and real life. She sends dh a friend request last week, he told me she had, and he had friended her.

Then, today, she tells me, 'I saw where your husband had a facebook account'

If I didn't know she is in an unhappy marriage I wouldn't think anything. And if she hadn't already told me about a guy she has been too friendly with on fb (and off) I wouldn't think anything. hmmm.

My husband blocked her shortly after friending her because he didn't want to see her constant posts. Its not my dh I'm thinking about though.

It is just odd to me, that she said "I saw where your dh is on fb", when she knows d good and well she sent him a friend request.

What do ya'll think of that?

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Wait you are "new" to FB but had a fake account? Why would you have a fake account? 

Then out of no where you make the assumption this woman is after your husband.

And if he stopped following her he would not see what she post on her own wall. I think you are assuming a lot about a woman who just friended the both of you.

[AngusandBuddhasMom]

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@Spurt wrote:

@happycat

It sounds like she's miserable and trying to find someone and doesnt care if they are married ....your DH blocked her, and you need to block her to...When she gets no repsonses I think she will try to find someone else that can give her some attention. 

It just amuses me how some so called "adults" like your friend can be so childish and become like Middle School kids....One reason Im not overly fond of FB.  

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You are assuming a lot here. She did not say the woman is posting on her husband's wall. Her husband is seeing what is on the womans wall because when he accepted her friend request he did not check off unfollow. So we are getting one side of a scenario with no idea as to what this woman actually did or did not do.

[AngusandBuddhasMom]

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@VaBelle35 wrote:

Many of the married couples I know have one FB account that they share with both of their names and they sign their posts/comments with their initials so you know who is speaking.

That may be one way to avoid a lot of issues.

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Nothing says trust  issues like not being mature enough to have your own fb account.

[Melania]

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@AngusandBuddhasMom wrote:

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@VaBelle35 wrote:

Many of the married couples I know have one FB account that they share with both of their names and they sign their posts/comments with their initials so you know who is speaking.

That may be one way to avoid a lot of issues.

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Nothing says trust  issues like not being mature enough to have your own fb account.

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Well said!! People really are childish and very insecure. They make FB sound like the boogeyman when it is they who make it bad. 

Gosh they act the same way here.

[Lipstickdiva]

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@AngusandBuddhasMom wrote:

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@VaBelle35 wrote:

Many of the married couples I know have one FB account that they share with both of their names and they sign their posts/comments with their initials so you know who is speaking.

That may be one way to avoid a lot of issues.

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Nothing says trust  issues like not being mature enough to have your own fb account.

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Yep. Pretty much what I said above. 

If I can't trust my DH enough to have his own FB account, there are deeper issues there.