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[magicmoodz]

I am asking for your help.

I have a Facebook account, but am not what you would call a real active participant. So here is my question: 

Is there a way to keep people (even your "friends") from being able to see messages I might post to another person if he is not friends with that other person? It never occurred to me that someone could access those messages. I'm feeling first, a little angry that this person would respond to a message I exchanged with someone he doesn't even know and second, a little stalked that he would even let me know he is looking at my exchanges with others. 

My husband is very inactive on Facebook as well, but a notification popped up on my account this morning that he wished a nephew happy birthday. So obviously his account is set up just like mine.

If you know if it is possible and how to create more privacy, please share. Thank you much!

[jackthebear]

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@magicmoodz wrote:

I am asking for your help.

I have a Facebook account, but am not what you would call a real active participant. So here is my question: 

Is there a way to keep people (even your "friends") from being able to see messages I might post to another person if he is not friends with that other person? It never occurred to me that someone could access those messages. I'm feeling first, a little angry that this person would respond to a message I exchanged with someone he doesn't even know and second, a little stalked that he would even let me know he is looking at my exchanges with others. 

My husband is very inactive on Facebook as well, but a notification popped up on my account this morning that he wished a nephew happy birthday. So obviously his account is set up just like mine.

If you know if it is possible and how to create more privacy, please share. Thank you much!

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yes 

you can search for how to make your account more private 

[Wsmom]

I am not sure of all the correct terminology for what is what, @magicmoodz, but if you are just posting on their wall everybody can see it.  Which means you just go on facebook and post.  If you want to send them a private message where nobody else can see it, you need to send it through FB messanger,  which is kind of like text messaging but through facebook.  I am sure others will come on to explain it better, but that is my understanding.   

[geezerette]

@magicmoodz 

Explanation from AI:

To prevent your friends from seeing your comments on someone else's Facebook page, adjust your privacy settings to "Only Me" before posting a comment; this will make your comment visible only to you and the person you commented on, effectively hiding it from your friends list. 

How to do this:

• Go to the post you want to comment on: Navigate to the Facebook post where you want to leave a comment. 
• Type your comment: Write your comment in the comment box. 
• Select the audience: Before hitting "Post," look for the small "globe" icon near the comment box, click on it, and choose "Only Me" from the dropdown menu. 

You could also set your privacy settings to "Only Me" for all comments in your account, I believe, rather than having to do it each time you post.

Or make a list of Exceptions so that some people can see what you post and those in the Exceptions list cannot.

ETA:  I don't think this applies when you comment on a public page.  I think all comments are public on those, meaning everyone accessing that page will be able to see your comment.

[Kachina624]

@magicmoodz. I'm on Facebook a lot, not writing much, but reading content that interests me.  I'll be darn if I can figure out how to fix security issues. 

It's one of the most user UNfriendly websites.

[Icegoddess]

If you're posting on their page, then it will depend on how they have THEIR privacy settings.  If you really want it ot be private, go to their page and loo for this icon at the top right-hand side of the page (assuming you're using a laptop).  That's for private messaging.  

More than likely, the reason you got a message indicating your husband wished someone a Happy Birthday is FB encouraging you to do the same, assuming they're your Friend too. 

Another way would be to go to YOUR main page and create a post.  Underneath your name you will see a little icon that looks like a World (which would mean your post is Public for anyone to see) or two silhouettes.  Click on that and it will give you several choices as to your Audience.  Choose Specific Friends.  One word of warning though, once you do that, it will become your Default audience.  So, the next time you want to post something, you'll need to change that back to your Friends. 

[jannabelle1]

@magicmoodz, I'm not a tech wizard by any means. That said, go to Facebook and look at the upper right on the Facebook bar. You'll see several icons. There should be one that is a round black circle with a squiggle in it (sort of looks like an "N"). That's the Facebook Messenger, and it lets you send a private message to anyone who is on your contact list or are friends with. Click on that icon and it should open up the Messenger window. You type in their name and then start your message. I think the "send" button looks like an arrow - at the bottom of the message where you've been writing. Try it - hopefully that should work for you to send a private message that only the recipient can see.

[magicmoodz]

@jannabelle1 

@Icegoddess 

@Kachina624 

@geezerette 

@Wsmom 

First let me say "you ladies rock!" Thank you so much for your suggestions!

Just a little more info: I have a setting for anything I put on my wall to share to ONLY me.

I was just so taken aback by this guy reading my post to someone abroad and then having the audacity to replying to my message to her. But I'm also glad it came to my attention. I best be careful what I say!😃

I have used "message" capabilities but don't rely on that when there are several participants in the conversation.

Regarding the birthday message my husband sent this morning where I received notification, I am not friends with that nephew, so it seems odd I would be notified.

I can't imagine having to reset who has access to my messages every time I write something. But I guess I have some playing around to do to try to solve this mystery.  

Again, thank you so much for taking the time to be so helpful. I appreciate you!🥰

[jackthebear]

also anyone who says anything you don't care for, deploy the block button, freely

[Sooner]

Anything you put on line is there forever and can be accessed by people smart enough to see it and hackers.  

Especially anything to do with sites like TikTok or Temu and sites like that.  Those are mostly to collect and use data.