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[Cakers3]

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@Spinach30 wrote:

Ex-husband and I were divorced many, many years ago (1987)!  Life has moved on and ( was married to my second husband for 13 years before cancer took him.  I am now married again and am very content and happy - more than I've ever been.  My one issue is that my first husband shows up in my dreams and it's always in a way that we will be getting back together.  The last time I ran into him was about 9 years ago and we talked a bit and went our separate ways.   Now, I'll be honest and say I was head-over-heals in love with my first husband - he was my first true love - but again that was a lifetime ago! But why do you think he still intrudes in my dreams?  It gives me an uneasy feeling the whole day!  

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@Spinach30  Why do YOU think he is in your dreams?

He is not necessarily your ex-husband in these dreams but a representative of someone/something else.  The someone/something else  can be presented in the form of your ex-husband but it doesn't mean that is who it is.

Unless you feel you need therapy over this because of the "uneasy" feeling you experience, my suggestion is to let it be. 

[Puppy Lips]

Oh wow, I could have written your post.  Except my dreams are about my high school/college boyfriend.  I was head over heels in love with him too.  Then we somehow just grew apart and split up.  But ALL the dreams revolve around me chosing him over the man I did marry.  The dreams were quite frequent for a very long time, then not so frequent, but I still have them to this day. I used to tell my husband about the dreams, which was probably not so smart.  I don't tell him anymore.  Frankly, I enjoy the dreams as a little bit of romance, and leave it at that.

[SeaMaiden]

Maybe you should discuss it with your CURRENT husband....not on a shopping channel community board?

[hoosieroriginal]

I always have a man by my side in my dreams - but can't see his face, but have a feeling of being very comfortable with this person.  I was married before, but have no issues with the end of it.  I always wonder who this person is.  Guess it could actually be my dad who died when I was 9 - doesn't necessarily have to be a lover.

[Spinach30]

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@SeaMaiden wrote:

Maybe you should discuss it with your CURRENT husband....not on a shopping channel community board?

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I always marvel at responses from some on this board.  There's no need to discuss anything with my husband as I love him dearly and am very happy.  There is nothing or no one I would choose ahead of him - no one!  

[truffle]

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@Spinach30 wrote:

Ex-husband and I were divorced many, many years ago (1987)!  Life has moved on and ( was married to my second husband for 13 years before cancer took him.  I am now married again and am very content and happy - more than I've ever been.  My one issue is that my first husband shows up in my dreams and it's always in a way that we will be getting back together.  The last time I ran into him was about 9 years ago and we talked a bit and went our separate ways.   Now, I'll be honest and say I was head-over-heals in love with my first husband - he was my first true love - but again that was a lifetime ago! But why do you think he still intrudes in my dreams?  It gives me an uneasy feeling the whole day!  

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I was having a recurring dream too and did not want to anymore so incensed was I over this man that I made sure to tell him to leave me alone when I dreamt of him again. No more dreams with him in it. When you're in that dream state when you start to wake but are still sleepy, allow yourself to go back to sleep and then tell him off loud and clear so he understands.  It worked for me despite the naysayers who say it's not real, etc, it still has an impact. 

[SeaMaiden]

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@Spinach30 wrote:

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@SeaMaiden wrote:

Maybe you should discuss it with your CURRENT husband....not on a shopping channel community board?

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I always marvel at responses from some on this board.  There's no need to discuss anything with my husband as I love him dearly and am very happy.  There is nothing or no one I would choose ahead of him - no one!  

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@Spinach30Then why even bring this up HERE of all places?  If it is bothering you so much you need to ask strangers opinions.....then there must be  more to It than just nothing.  Like some dark dirty secret or something. 

[Plaid Pants2]

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@Spinach30 wrote:

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@SeaMaiden wrote:

Maybe you should discuss it with your CURRENT husband....not on a shopping channel community board?

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I always marvel at responses from some on this board.  There's no need to discuss anything with my husband as I love him dearly and am very happy.  There is nothing or no one I would choose ahead of him - no one!  

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If you truly love your husband dearly, and you are very happy as you claim, then why let a silly ol' dream get you so worked up?

[truffle]

Recurring dreams over someone you'd rather not remember become skeevy and tend to ruin the rest of your day. Unless it's happened to you personally you won't understand. 

[Cakers3]

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@truffle wrote:

Recurring dreams over someone you'd rather not remember become skeevy and tend to ruin the rest of your day. Unless it's happened to you personally you won't understand. 

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@truffle  The person is still in your memory regardless if you want to remember him or not.  Therefore, looking at your other post, it seems this person represents something repressed by you that makes you uncomfortable-be it him or something else.

You told him to leave you alone; perhaps you had already resolved something ELSE and by telling him to go away minimized whatever issue he represented to you.

That will be 5 cents, please.