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On 9/23/2014 chickenbutt said:

On 9/23/2014 tansy said: All in the name of religion. I saw a bit last night. The guy was nuts.

Ugh! I'll just leave that at that.

As for those who mock - maybe if you have been hit by men at any time in your life you'd understand why this sort of thing is NOT funny.

I am living proof of that. My father whipped us with a belt when we were kids (a lot of fathers did that then). A supposed "boyfriend" slapped me in the face once because I hung up on him, and my father beat the krap out of me when I was 18, punched me in the back, I lost my breath and fell to the floor and he then started kicking me. My mother screaming "stop, stop," in the background. I was already out of school and working. I will say that was the last time he hit any of us though. I think he scared himself.

So I find it hard to see this as "amusing." I could never forgive him. I loved him still, but in a different way after that. I remember him saying to me once on a visit from FL . . . "you were the one," meaning he loved me the most. All I could say was "Really?" He was old and getting sick by then, and I couldn't bring myself to bring the subject up. He had obviously not remembered it. He had stayed with me for a few days and my brother was picking him up on the last day. He saw me unmaking his bed, it was a sofa bed and I was folding it up, and he said "I'm surprised." It hurt him that I was already making him "gone" before he went. I didn't do it on purpose, but he was hurt. And I don't cry when I think of him gone, as I do with my beloved mother and sister.

There are consequences to what you do in life. You may not think people remember, and they might not even realize it either, but it's a fact. IMO, physical/emotional abuse changes things.