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[AnikaBrodie]

No. Seems people having long engagements have a problem with commitment.

[Yuban3]

On 5/16/2014 AnikaBrodie said:

No. Seems people having long engagements have a problem with commitment.

Not always. As long as both parties in the couple are happy and satisfied with the arraignment, what difference does it make to anybody else?

None.

[croemer]

On 5/16/2014 AnikaBrodie said:

No. Seems people having long engagements have a problem with commitment.

I have known several couples who had long engagements...and a short marriage.

[Lipstickdiva]

No I don't. If someone proposes, the intention should be to get married. If you don't want to get married, why propose? It doesn't make sense to me. You should be taking the next step which is marriage.

[RainyDayGal]

My husband and I had a long engagement - more than 5 years.

Whatever works for people.

[croemer]

On 5/16/2014 LipstickDiva said:

No I don't. If someone proposes, the intention should be to get married. If you don't want to get married, why propose? It doesn't make sense to me. You should be taking the next step which is marriage.

[Yuban3]

On 5/16/2014 RedConvertibleGirl said:

My husband and I had a long engagement - more than 5 years.

Whatever works for people.

Exactly. Every couple is different.

Just because a couple has an engagement that last for years and years and years, does NOT mean that there is anything "suspicious", or that someone has a "fear of commitment".

As long as both parties in the relationship is HAPPY with the long engagement, it is nobody's business why the engagement is so long.

As I said, they could have that for financial reasons.

[JeanLouiseFinch]

We dated a few years and then our engagement was just under a year and a half, for a total of 4 years. We've been married only to each other and it's going on 36 yrs. It worked for us. That said, I've heard of people who married quickly and are just as committed and solid, so to each their own.

[sidsmom]

Yes, it's called "living together". If you don't subscribe to that then...as the old saying goes, "sh:t or get off the pot".

[CouponQueen]

Whatever works for the couple..that said..to me ususally when the engagement lasts longer then a year or two during wedding planning..the ring was just a formality to make somebody else happy..not in all cases ...