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[jubilant]

I think treating people with respect and actually respecting them are two different things.  I think we treat others as we want to be treated because everyone deserves that.  If, for some reason, they are no longer deserving, you may lose respect for that person.  That still doesn't give you the right to be disrespectful to said person.  You can disagree but in a respectful way.

What is happening today?  I don't think people put as much value on a human being as they used to.  They don't take into consideration that there is a way to still respect those who would disagree with you.

[SaRina]

Deserved:  Civility and Tolerance

Earned:  Respect

[Suziepeach]

We were taught to respect when we were growing up but the older I learned so many people are cruel and don't respect anyone .. My worse feelings are for those that think by telling it like it is is the route to go- they don't think of the painful ramification to the other person or those that hurt animals..  No respect for either from me.

I either like someone/trust them or not, I don't have an in between.. Life is full of hard knocks and with the ones I've been hit by, I try my darndest to not let it affect my feelings towards other human beings.. best thing is to keep my mouth shut and ignore.

[60sgirl]

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@jubilant wrote:

I think treating people with respect and actually respecting them are two different things.  I think we treat others as we want to be treated because everyone deserves that.  If, for some reason, they are no longer deserving, you may lose respect for that person.  That still doesn't give you the right to be disrespectful to said person.  You can disagree but in a respectful way.

What is happening today?  I don't think people put as much value on a human being as they used to.  They don't take into consideration that there is a way to still respect those who would disagree with you.

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that's a whole other day long topic in and by itself, don't ya think? I would love to hear people's theories on that but in this forum, that thread would blow up quickly. 

[CrazyDaisy]

I think the difference is being respectful vs respecting the person.  I was taught to be respectful because they are older, teachers, police officers, even your boss etc., that is deserving respect for thier position.  An individual needs to earn my respect with their actions. 

[60sgirl]

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@CrazyDaisy wrote:

I think the difference is being respectful vs respecting the person.  I was taught to be respectful because they are older, teachers, police officers, even your boss etc., that is deserving respect for thier position.  An individual needs to earn my respect with their actions. 

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my post #29 said the same thing

[Mj12]

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@Marp wrote:

A comment I read today took me back to my childhood.  I was raised that everyone deserved respect until they did something to lose it. 

Today, I see many state that respect needs to be earned which implies people aren't worthy of respect until they do something desirable in the eyes of the one bestowing respect.

Is needing to earn respect before getting it a generational thing or just a difference in the way people look at others today?

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I was too, @Marp. 

Interesting thread!

[JustJazzmom]

I was also taught to respect certain groups of people-- teachers, parents, grandparents, police/fire persons.

But when a person does an action that goes against my values, that causes me to pause and step back from that person and if these actions continue being done by that person, I will lose respect for that person.

[foundinlv]

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@baker wrote:

I  was brought up to be seen and not heard, meaning I was only a child and was expected to do what I was told.The word respect never entered the conversation, I remember just trying to avoid any confrontation with an adult if at all possible. When I was able to think for myself, I did treat everyone like I wanted to be treated, but I did not respect adults and never trusted them. As an adult  there have been very few people I have respected and trusted.

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@blackhole99 It is hard to tear off the shackles of incorrect parenting but you must if you want to achieve complete happiness.   Don't let reruns of old dialogue rule your heart.  

[Laura14]

I agree with the whole respectful aka manners to me versus the actual respect camp.  

I always have my manners/respectful attititude because my grandmother told me I was never going to make her look bad.  But you have my actual respect when you show me your own set of manners/respectful attitude back.