Re: Death Announcements

Marp · ‎03-09-2010

@River Song wrote:
What or how a person died is nobody's beeswax. I don't care if they are a famous person or not, it's still nobody's business.

When my husband died, he didn't want an obituary in the newspaper. However, the cremation service we used did publish a very short, basic obituary online that did not list cause of death.

Well. A high school classmate of my late husband wrote me a letter demanding, yes, demanding, that I tell her what happened to him and cause of death. This is someone he had no contact with since high school 50 years ago! She googled his name as a lark and saw the online short obituary. Then googled our mailing address. All to satisfy her morbid curiosity. The nerve of some people!

I did not respond to her letter and promptly round-filed it. SMH

@River Song, there is only one legitimate reason I can think of for that woman to demand to know the cause of your husband's death and that would be if there were a cluster of unexplained deaths or life threatening illnesses related to other classmates.

However, if that were the case she most certainly owed you an explanation as to why she needed to know. What she did after so many years in unconscionable.

What is good for the goose today will also be good for the gander tomorrow.

River Song · ‎03-15-2010

@Marp wrote:
@River Song wrote:
What or how a person died is nobody's beeswax. I don't care if they are a famous person or not, it's still nobody's business.

When my husband died, he didn't want an obituary in the newspaper. However, the cremation service we used did publish a very short, basic obituary online that did not list cause of death.

Well. A high school classmate of my late husband wrote me a letter demanding, yes, demanding, that I tell her what happened to him and cause of death. This is someone he had no contact with since high school 50 years ago! She googled his name as a lark and saw the online short obituary. Then googled our mailing address. All to satisfy her morbid curiosity. The nerve of some people!

I did not respond to her letter and promptly round-filed it. SMH
@River Song, there is only one legitimate reason I can think of for that woman to demand to know the cause of your husband's death and that would be if there were a cluster of unexplained deaths or life threatening illnesses related to other classmates.

However, if that were the case she most certainly owed you an explanation as to why she needed to know. What she did after so many years in unconscionable.

There was no 'reason'. She was just being nosy. Mind you, this was no letter of condolence to me as the grieving widow, it was all about her and her desire to know the details. And, I don't know her from Adam, my husband never mentioned her, she could be anybody trying to get information out of me to steal his identity, who knows what her motivation was. I wasn't having any of it. Really ticks me off the way people feel they have the right to know personal information that is none of their business.

“Those who can make you believe absurdities can make you commit atrocities.” ~ Voltaire 1694-1778

bells4me · ‎03-13-2010

It's NOYB.

Tinkrbl44 · ‎08-23-2010

@Allthingsgirly67 wrote:
I think “haunted” is the word I was looking for. Sometimes just knowing is some kind of closure. Of course the family is entitled to their privacy. However it kind of lets us hanging. Especially when it’s a public figure.

@Allthingsgirly67

Wow. Yes, the family is entitled to their privacy, whether the death was due to accident, illness ... or self-inflicted.

As for leaving you hanging, too bad. It's not the family's responsibility to give you (or other random strangers) "closure".

It's really none of your business, even if you think you're entitled to the information. You aren't.

DottieBlue · ‎03-11-2010

No, it isn't anyone's business how another human left this life. However, I firmly believe it is basic human nature to want to know what caused their demise. And I don't think it is morbid.

They give their name, age, occupation, city where they lived, where they were born, who their parents/siblings were, "leaves behind spouse, 10 kids, (and names of) etc." but it's none of our business what caused their death? Why?

In the past, if the cause of death was suicide or AIDS the obit would omit the cause of death because it would embarrass the family. Those causes used to be considered "shameful."

"Natural causes, heart attack, cancer, after a long illness, suffered a fatal injury, vehicle crash, plane crash", "cause of death still pending", etc. would be listed as cause of death. Invasion of privacy? Really? Especially nowadays when people post their whole lives on social media, but cause of death is taboo? Too personal?

I find it very difficult to believe that when someone hears of another person's death that they know personally or is a public figure, the question of how? doesn't enter your mind.

Whether you like it or not, people are going to wonder. Personally, I'd rather state the truth than have conjecture and speculation and rumors.

But that's just me.

Carmie · ‎10-25-2010

I looked at today's obits to see if the cause of death was listed for any of the deceased in my local area.

There were 72 listings for the week and not a single one listed the cause of death or even gave a small hint.

It seems this info is no longer listed in most obits. If you are family or a real close friend, I am sure you would know. If you don't know, it really doesn't matter. Dead is dead.

3catmomma · ‎01-28-2014

@Desertdi wrote:
@lgfan wrote:
@Desertdi

Thanks for the laugh. Someone died because of the removal of butt implants.🤣
@lgfan Actually, I think it was "complications" from having too much liposuction done at one time (!!)

How sad you find someone's death so funny. Tells a lot about you both.

Pook · ‎03-20-2010

Maybe those who feel entitled to know can just phone, or go on socila media and go to the funeral and ask the family!! That is Glady's Kravitz behavior!! We had a strange man in our town that went to every funeral and was "curious". Everyone jokingly called him "Preacher"

My mother said if anyone care s about her they will come to visit her while alive and they did!

I have seen more and more not even put a death notice let alone an obit in the paper and less and less having a funeral open to the public!

manny2 · ‎05-24-2010

@Trinity11 wrote:
@Allthingsgirly67 wrote:
As I stated numerous times I understand that it is the families right. I was only speculating from my point of view and if anyone else has felt this way. As @ trinity 11 has mentioned and I know what she was referring to as I live outside of nyc of a prominent meteorologist who’s very public passing and seems to be endlessly memorialized feels odd when no mention of cause of death. Yes we’ll aware that there tests involved and and the news may be forthcoming. However a little something would make sense to those of us who are now left to wondering what happened. Now I understand that there is a go-fund me page for the little girl, her and I guess her husband is included as well. Although both had very high paying jobs I don’t know why they have a go-fund me account. It’s sort of like donating to a cause or charity and not knowing why. Please don’t come at me because I was only e pressing a curiosity that others might share and from the posters some do.
Elise Finch shared everything about her life for many years. She was prolific in fact about many topics. Scolding you @Allthingsgirly67 is typical behavior here. And not for one moment do I think a lot of the judging going on in this thread is truthful. It's just a place to let off steam. Bad day? QVC forum is a great place to tell someone how much better they are in all things related to death notices. It gets old but completely predictable. Another reason why these forums have seen a real drop in participation. Who needs it?🙄

You nailed this one too @Trinity11 You can see by some responses the boxing gloves are on. All @Allthingsgirly67 posted was she would like to know why this beautiful 51-year-old woman died suddenly. This public figure.

As for is it worth it to post. Yes, it is. Just ignore.

manny2 · ‎05-24-2010

@50Mickey wrote:
It seems like there are two things going on in this thread. First some cannot let go of wanting to know why this woman died. For the life of me I can't understand why this is something that they are so worked up about and feeling like they have a right to know. Just because public people share events in their life does not mean that circumstances around their death needs to be public.Can't people pass without strangers clamoring for the cause of death?

Secondly some seem to be perturbed about the go fund me account. If you do not wish to donate don't. But who among those here know the financial status of this family. She left a 7 year old child. Maybe some of her friends wish to donate to this fund for her daughter's future educational expenses.
Let this woman rest in peace and let her family heal from this untimely death.

Someone “can’t let go” of wondering how this woman died. How did you come up with that one?

What I read was a post wondering how she died. That is all. The rest somehow got lost in translation.