DOES IT MATTER TO YOU - Page 9

Cakers3 · ‎06-17-2015

All righty then.

"" Compassion is a verb."-Thich Nhat Hanh

dex · ‎03-09-2010

@homedecor1 @Lol...time to remind him that the bills are paid and you are ready to party again.

dex · ‎03-09-2010

@QueenDanceALot wrote:
The question @Goodie2shoes asked was whether it mattered if you received the Valentine's Day gift before or on the day. She didn't ask if it was more important to get a Valentine's gift or to be treated well every day.

I think @Cakers3 makes a good point. No one in their right mind would say that I don't mind being treated badly all year long as long as I get a box of candy and a dozen roses on Valentine's Day.

Reading some responses here, they read as though they must point out the obvious, that no Valentine's gift is going to make up for lousy treatment the rest of the year. So the reader asks "why do you need to point that out?".

Just wonderin'.

I find that it doesn’t matter what you say these days there are some who feel a need to spin it.I find that to be so interesting each time I come across it.

pigletsmom · ‎11-21-2011

I love this original post. Thanks for sharing your good guy with us @Goodie2shoes I have to admit the cynic in me had me thinking this post was headed for a complaint that he wasn't giving you the gifts on the right day. So glad you appreciate your guy.

september · ‎03-09-2010

@Goodie2shoes I think it might be a bit of a surprise to expect these gifts, but get them early. Your husband must be a planner and doesn't want to wait until the last minute, in case there is a shortage of anything he wants to give you. Good for him!

Tomorrow will be my second Valentines Day without my husband, and I think he had a lot in common with yours.

yesterday, I had to go into CVS to buy some sympathy cards (not for anyone in my family). I was walking behind an older man who got to the card area and came to a sudden stop, as if he didn't know what to do next. He saw the many people in the aisle with the Valentine's Day cards and headed that way. I smiled, thinking that could have been my husband at one time! He wasn't comfortable with shopping for anything, but did okay when it counted!❤️

Tinkrbl44 · ‎08-23-2010

@rms1954 wrote:
I don't know why the poster would ask a question like that but I'd like to think it was for no other reason than to share. I am glad if you feel loved and cared for and if you don't then I am sorry but hope you can overcome your sadness.

It is the most important thing to have a person who can express their love through respect, kindness, and compassion towards you.

I've been married for close to 35 years to someone who shows none of those things. Six months after we were married he showed his true colors. It was like night/day. The only thing consistant about him is he always lets me down.

Last year I lost my Mom who was emotionally and physically abusive. She showed me no love or support. She reminded me on a day-to-day basis that I was worthless. And up until the age of 18 when I got married and moved out, I heard every day that I was useless and undeserving of love. I am one of six children and she didn't treat any of them that way. I kept it to myself all these years. I was in therapy for a couple years and had depression and PTSD. The other day my husband made the comment "your mother was right." So no it wouldn't matter to me if he treated me to something a couple days before Valentine's Day, but to others it might.

Cherish being with someone who can shower you with love, no matter what day it is.

Wishing ALL of you love.

@rms1954

You really don't have to answer me, but your post really startled me. Why in Heaven's name would you ever stay with a man like this?

Keep in mind ... NOTHING in single life is as bad as a bad marriage.

qualitygal · ‎10-04-2010

I accept any and all gifts, any and at all times. Happy life.

chiclet · ‎03-19-2010

@fancy pantsy wrote:
it would bother me a little if he forgot ... but i know that he would not. but honestly, it's the everyday things that touch me more than the special days. like last week when he walked in with a bunch of bananas because he noticed that they were all gone and he knows i like one every morning. now THAT impressed me

@Imtep i want to wish you a beautiful today.

He makes sure the car gas tanks are always full. He guys the groceries and does all the cooking. My first husband basically did not nothing around the house and used work as an excuse but made a big show on Valentines day. I would rather have the little things everyday than a big show once a year. I guess I would like the little things and a nice present but I guess you cannot have it all. At least I never have.

jubilant · ‎06-10-2010

I like the old saying, "It's the thought that counts". Therefore, it doesn't matter to me if it's the exact day or not.

As far as what was said about your post @Goodie2shoes ...

Those who really know you and care about you, won't give such negative posts the time of day in their minds. They will see through it.

jubilant · ‎06-10-2010

@Sooner

I hope you won't count yourself out for several reasons. We need all the good people here we can get lest those that like to cause turmoil outnumber us.

Of course, I realize people need to do what they think is right for them.... but first I think we should ask ourselves this...Am I going to let someone (who is obviously either trying to cause dissention or is possibly so dysfuntional they can't understand happy people and may even be jealous of them) get under my skin? Why should we let their crude opinons take up any space in our minds.

I sure hope you will reconsider and either stand up against these people, ignore them, or both!!