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[Cakers3]

@tansy

I sure do remember the high post count issue.

Considering who watched or still watches that?

Talk about getting a life.🤔🤣

I also remember when you could see who was online.
Some posters simply didn't log off it just forgot or whatever.
They would be "monitored" with the same "You're here 24/7, get a life, I know you saw the post etc.because you were online".

Yet there they were - the hall monitors with no lives themselves. 🤣

You cannot make this up.

[elated]

I think if you are going to post on a thread, you should answer questions from.those responding. You don't have to reply or thank them but answer questions. If you are not ready to get both positive and negative responses then maybe you shouldn't. Not everyone has the same thought process, so be aware..

One of the other situations, is when a posts gets sidetracked by those who have an agenda. This is when it is unfair to those that need help. Then the posts is deleted and those that wanted to be helpful are left in the dark as what was the outcome. I don't think there is a right or wrong in acknowledging or not.

[Cakers3]

If I offer advice and I do not receive an acknowledgement or thank you or whatever - it's not going to bother me

Because at that point now it's about me and not the poster.
Is it impolite? Rude? It doesn't matter. I'm just not that important
I understand those who expect a response or at least a heart

But perhaps the poster feels he/she shared too much.
Or received something that dug a bit too deep.
Sometimes a vent is what is happening.
I don't know his/her story in real life.

Look -getting upset isn't going to change the situation.
I know some ignore me. 🤷‍♀️ 🙄
Expecting a response makes it about me, not the situation.

I give what I think might be helpful and I move on

Geeze Louise. It's not like submitting a Ph.D dissertation.

[Cakers3]

@elated

The off topic posts certainly can be an issue.
I've gone off topic, and wish I had just sat on my hands.

Yet some make everything political where none is required (and against standards we know).

Some could start an argument in an empty room, too.

[GingerHead]

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@Cakers3 wrote:
If I offer advice and I do not receive an acknowledgement or thank you or whatever - it's not going to bother me

Because at that point now it's about me and not the poster.
Is it impolite? Rude? It doesn't matter. I'm just not that important
I understand those who expect a response or at least a heart

But perhaps the poster feels he/she shared too much.
Or received something that dug a bit too deep.
Sometimes a vent is what is happening.
I don't know his/her story in real life.

Look -getting upset isn't going to change the situation.
I know some ignore me. 🤷‍♀️ 🙄
Expecting a response makes it about me, not the situation.

I give what I think might be helpful and I move on

Geeze Louise. It's not like submitting a Ph.D dissertation.

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@Cakers3 

    I agree with you to a point, asking for prayers or merely venting is fine and don't require any "come backs"

 but I take issue with some people who “drop bombs,” so to speak, and then disappear without engaging further. 

When others clearly show interest and take the time to respond, it feels dismissive to ignore them. 

This is a discussion board, after all. If someone doesn't want to discuss a topic, it raises the question of why they post it in the first place...especially if this pattern repeats.

This space shouldn’t only be about broadcasting opinions. That feels particularly problematic when the subject matter could be unsafe or misleading for readers.(I have only one specific topic in mind here).

Maybe that says something bad about me, but to me, that behavior is a bit rude.

EDITED: And if you want to be "rude" (if you think it's rude, some don't of course) then more power to you, you can do anything you wish.....I just won't like it. haha...oh well, I'll live

[cody2]

It doesn't bother me a bit. Many years ago, when I was new at this, I thought it was incumbent on me to reply to all. Only good manners, lol. Now, it is my choice to read all the replies, or not. And I don't have to reply to all.

[JeanLouiseFinch]

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@tansy wrote:

Any old posters remember when posters were made fun of for having a high post count? "You're here 24/7. Get a life."

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[Cakers3]

One more thing.😛

I don't remember who posted the comment about welcoming posters to "our" thread.

Obviously we all know nobody owns a thread 🙄

As far as I am concerned I think it's nice to welcome a poster.
Sometimes a poster might feel shy or not sure if she belongs especially on long running threads.

It's a nice way to say we see you, we are happy to have you, feel free to share or not, and just know we all need a soft space sometimes.

Yeesh.

[Cakers3]

@GingerHead

I hope you do not think I was picking at you or diminishing your feelings in anyway.

Be well.🪷

[cody2]

This question has had me thinking and that is a good thing. I have a confession I might regret, lol. But there have been times when I have posted a subject and no one replies all day long. Normally that would not affect me. But on a bad day...I will probably come back and check before bed. And is somebody has come and posted to me...I can go to bed knowing that somebody heard me. And some days I need that.